(Closed) Do you send the invitation out to your wedding planner and photographer?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No, I don’t think you need to send an invitation to the two of them, even if they were super duper nice – unless they were already friends/guests and they are gifting you their services or something.

I didn’t seat my vendors at a table. They grabbed their meals in the “back” where all of the other service staff and vendors ate, whenever they got a chance. FWIW, my planner, though she was seated in a chair off to the side where she could survey the room, was pretty much working the whole time coordinating the timeline, other vendors, etc.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I plan to send an invitation to all of my vendors, just for fun… I don’t think it’s necessary and they’ll probably throw them right out but I still want to do it so they can kind of get a little excited and feel good about getting it??

I’m not sure about the seating deal, I assume it’s something we’ll discuss with our vendors closer to the date.

eta all the vendors that are staying all day that is… videographer, photographer, dj.. I think a planner would be included in that list

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No, I didn’t. I figured I’m paying them both enough money, they’ll know when & where the wedding is 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can’t see a vendor getting excited to recieve an invite to a wedding that they are working. They’ll be excited to see your check.

It’d be like your boss sending you an invite to go to work.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think I would send one at least to my photographer, as I’ve seen some really beautiful photos of invitations and he/she might put it in your folder to bring with the day of. Maybe even include a note asking him or her to do so. One less thing to have to pack with you the day of.

For other vendors, I might consider it just to give them the “feel” of the event, assuming your invitation reflects that.

As far as where to seat them, in our final planning stages, I’m just going to tell them “We’re of course planning on serving you dinner. What’s your preference in terms of seating for you?”

My concern with having a vendor table is that you’d probably have that table empty the majority of the night. My understanding is most vendors prefer to grab a quick bite out in a lobby, or if they’re familiar with the venue, even in the back with the venue staff.

Our videographer had in her contract that we either had to provide a vegetarian meal OR acknowledge that she could leave for a period of time to get her own meal. Totally fair. I want to treat my vendors WELL!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I did not send them invitations but I did pay and tip them.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

The officiant and his/her spouse should be sent an invitation. All the other vendors do not need to be sent one. They are not guests, they are employees. I know it’s a harsh way to put it, but that’s what they are. They aren’t there to enjoy themselves. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As a vendor, I would probably be a bit confused if I got an invitation and would probably be offended, like bitch didn’t think I knew where the damn wedding was?  The only vendor who might want/appreciate one would be the photographer if their work was on it (like on a photo STD).

As for a table, please don’t do that.  Having a table out with the guests would be really awkward.  Have a table set for them with enough plates and cutlery in the back area.  We are not guests, we’re working. While we’re happy and excited for you, you’re just a client and we don’t care *that* much.  We’d much rather snark about your shady uncle  or the lunatic bridezilla we’re working with next week or any number of things that would not be appropriate to say while out on the floor–we have to have a certain persona and filter running in front of clients and guests and a real break would be the opportunity to turn that off for half an hour.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Loribeth:  Agreed.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@zoecn:  You tip the people who work for you who do not own the business.  So you should not tip a photographer unless they are working for someone else.  You should tip the servers and other staff as we don’t really get paid very much and “service charge” is not our gratuity, it’s the admin fee for our bosses.  My job charges $25 or more an hour for me (depending on what I am doing) but I see maybe half of that.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I sent an invitation to my photographer.  She brought it to the wedding and photographed it with my rings & accessories.  I’d definitely send one.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I will probably hand one to my planner, onLY because in her office I saw a bunch of invites on a cork board, obviously other people gave her theirs…I want mine up their too!

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