(Closed) Do you share passwords, look at his phone, etc?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is your DH/FI fine with you knowing his passwords, checking his phone/laptop, etc (and vice versa)?
    No, we do not share passwords or look at each others laptops or phones : (29 votes)
    16 %
    No, but I've snooped on him in the past : (22 votes)
    12 %
    Yes, but I rarely/never actually look : (89 votes)
    50 %
    Yes, and we check each other's phones/laptops : (28 votes)
    16 %
    Other (please explain) : (9 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We know each other’s passwords.  We use each other’s phones to look things up or call people. But I do not snoop on him and he doesn’t snoop on me.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    We have eachother’s passwords to everything. I don’t go through his phone, he doesn’t go through mine. We share passwords because I do all his online stuff for his business.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I have snooped on his laptop ONCE, and I’m sorry I did! He has some porn on there, and it made me really jealous. In my mind, I know a lot of men look at porn, but for some reason it really affected me. So I don’t look anymore!! 

    His phone – he only texts his best friend..so I’m not concerned with looking 🙂

    Post # 5
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    1253 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Seriously?? There are women who are in relationships that feel the need to constantly check up on texts and emails?? I find that incredibly bizarre. I have no interest in anything on my FI’s blackberry, or his email. It’s called privacy, and I think everyone should have it. If the mood struck and I had a burning desire to see everything, I would probably take that as a sign as something isn’t working in our relationship.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @napabridekelsey: Ahahaha.  That’s happened to me as well.  But it wasn’t that I was snooping.  I was using his computer to do something and he had it bookmarked.  I wasn’t thrilled.  What I don’t know now is better..

    Post # 7
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We have the same passwords/ slightly different variations of the same passwords.  We don’t have any secrets.  I rarely use his computer except if mine isn’t working or something.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We share everything and regularly switch phones or have one person look at the other one’s emails, accounts, etc…  We didn’t always used to be so open, but I think it’s the best policy for us.  The only time I ask my husband not to look (or vice versa) is around holidays when I want to keep his present a surpise.  🙂

    Post # 9
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We know each other’s passwords. And we’ll use each other’s phones, but neither of us snoop because neither of us have anything to hide.

    The only time I ever “snoop” is when we get a package from Amazon that the ordered and he needs me to pick it up at the concierge. I’ll check on Amazon what he ordered to make sure it’s not huge/heavy.

    ETA: I don’t do this around Christmas, Anniversaries, or my birthday when the shipment could be a gift for me.

    Also, I voted for the wrong category because I misread: 

    Yes, but I rarely/never actually look

    My vote belongs there, not in “Other”.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5787 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I know all his passwords but its more for convenience than anything else since Fiance forgets bills are due until the last minute fairly often.

    Post # 11
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @DesireeAnne: You changed your avatar!  (Sorry, off-topic- cute little guy though!)

    Post # 12
    Member
    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @cbee:  Sorry to throw you off. 😛 Thank you though!

    Post # 13
    Member
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Mrs. Spring: We are the same way!  I ask him not to check out my emails around the holidays and birthday time

    I mean I use his phone and he’ll use mine, but I don’t actively check his texts to see who they are to and what they say.  If an email or text comes in when we are driving, he usually asks me to open it and read it to him.

    Post # 13
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I def look at his phone. However, he knows. Darling Husband never gives me the full story. He’ll come home tell me someone sent him a text that made him upset (his mom or his ex wife) and half asses the story. I always have to read it for myself to figure out what really happened.

    Post # 14
    Member
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Fiance and I know all of each other’s passwords for everything but it’s not so we can “check up” on each other. We have combined finances, we’ve had to check each other’s emails when the other person can’t do it themselves and they need information, etc. Neither of us have ever felt the need to check into things in a suspicious way, thank goodness!

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