Post # 1
Bees- First off, let me say that my fiance is a worry wart! He worries about everything. However I know he has the right to be worried about this topic and it got me to thinking.
Do you ever feel like you share too much information on boards like this (or other social networking sites)? More to the point, do you fear someone following your posts too closely and knowing when you’re going to be out of town (like for your honeymoon) and taking advantage of your absence?
I try to keep things close to the cuff, but sometimes I find myself spouting off things as I am a rather open person, but my fiance is very private. He thinks I’m too trusting and I share too much. I have purposefully been very restrained in my posts about the wedding on facebook for multiple reasons, but mainly out of respect for his wishes and to keep our guest list down! (It still amazes me how many people would like to invite themselves to our wedding!)
Post # 3
Hangs head in shame… YES! I share too much! But I don’t really mind it.
Post # 4
That’s why I don’t post on here or Facebook that I’m going on vacation until I get back! Always safe!
Post # 5
My SO calls me an “oversharer” when I’m with his family (how am I supposed to know your sisters know you smoke but your mom doesn’t unless you tell me?), but in regards to social networking I never like giving the impression that no one is in my house.
If you want to cure yourself of wanting to post everything on Facebook try what I did: deactivate your account for a month and then when you reactivate it again you realize that so little activities make you want to post about them on Facebook.
Also you can create a group on Facebook and add everyone who is actually invited to the wedding to the group. If you make the group private or secret the posts on the group will not be shown in anyones newsfeed. That way you could post about your wedding to your hearts content and not worry about “outsiders” gaining information or inviting themselves 🙂
Post # 6
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I never thought about how people could misuse information until I had seen several news reports about people posting things like that and thieves breaking into their homes while they are gone. Then I realized, yeah, that’s pretty ignorant of me to tell people I”m not home!
My fiance is specfically worried that someone might put all my posts together and figure out where we are and when we’ll be gone. I’ve tried being very careful about sharing, but he’s got me worried now. I try to tell him that nobody would want our stuff and I’m not an important enough person for someone to follow like that, but he still worries.
Post # 7
That’s a good point – but I suspect that anyone who got your information off the Bee would already know you in real life if they recognized you from pictures, location, description of yourself, etc. In which case, they would have a lot of ways to figure out when you wouldn’t be home, other than the internet.
Honestly, most criminals are going to take the path of least resistance. (I work in loss prevention, so I have seen this firsthand, LOL) IMO, it would be a pain in the ass to stalk the Bee, try to figure out where a stranger’s house is, and plan to break into it while they’re away, not even knowing if you got the right house, if there’d be much worth stealing, if a housesitter or neighbor would call the police, etc. There are just so many things that could go wrong, and so many easier ways to steal things.
Post # 8
At times. But I have censored myself plenty of times before actually posting on WB.
Post # 9
I don’t have anyone on my FB who would break into my house. It’s all family and a few friends. I have right at 100 friends, that’s it. I do write when we’re on vacation. On WB, nobody knows where I live, so it doesn’t matter.
Post # 10
I’ve definitely over shared on here. There’s plenty of stuff I wish I cold take back but what’re ya gonna do? I’ve never worried that someone would be able to track me down IRL, though (at least as far as finding my address is concerned). As for FB, only “friends” are able to see my profile and those “friends” consist of family members or actual friends/people that I know on a personal level. No one that I know would ever use anything that I post against me. I don’t really post super personal stuff anyway.
Post # 11
I try not to, but when I’m going through the kind of shit I was going through before my Daddy passed away just over a week ago, I am nothing but a walking emotion and I pour it all out for everyone. Alcohol certainly doesn’t help. Needless to say, I go back and do a lot of deleting later.
Post # 12
Sometimes I worry that I’ve overshared personal experiences and friends/family who stumble onto the bee might figure out who I am (and be pissed that I posted ranty things about them, lol). But as far as my address, vacation days, etc. goes, I don’t post that stuff, so I’m not too worried.
Post # 13
I don;t think I share too much on here, nor do I worry about it, but I often feel as if I share too much in real life with other people……
Post # 14
I’ve overshared before. I regret some things, but there’s nothing to be done about it now.
I have gotten much better though. I very rarely post personal things, like when I’ll be out of town or something, on Facebook or any other social networking site. I’ve also gotten better about my personal business. I was never one of those people who used Facebook as a diary, but now I avoid posting much of anything. It’s just much easier that way. I don’t have people in my business.
Post # 15
YES! I wear my heart on my sleeve. But I never NAME NAMES on F/B. And I would never post really, really prviate things about my sex life, work life, bosses, etc on here, esp since I am tagged to my F/B.
Post # 16
I’m usually very careful and extremely private. I did slip a little when I started dating my FH as I wanted the world to know how happy I was lol. The one time I made a big mistake was posting something on here that I feel could easily be traced back to me and the no delete rule has made this a real issue for me 🙁