Post # 1
A thread on the relationship board got me to thinking…do you spoil your SO? Sometimes I think that I tend to spoil him, A LOT.
When we wake up in the morning, I lay out his socks, boxers, and undershirt for the day and go make him breakfast while he is showering and dreessing. When he comes home in the evening, I get him a can of pop and finish putting dinner together so we can eat together. I also do all of the dishes/cleaning in the apartment.
Is PenguinGuy spoiled? Part of me says YES because in addition to all of that, i work full time. A second part of me says, NO because a lot of the stuff that I do, making breakfast, cooking dinner, cleaning, etc I have to do anyway when he is deployed, so doing it for another person isn’t that big of a deal.
What are your thoughts? Do you spoil your SO?
Post # 3
J is spoiled, but he spoils me as well. I take care of his packing, putting clothes away, and cooking. He’ll take care of cleaning, doing dishes, etc. So there’s a balance between us.
We’re also spoiled in other instances. At night – he gets the head and back rub. He loves laying on me while we watch tv.
Post # 4
I spoil my husband occassionally, but I don’t baby him. We definitely have a nice balance
Post # 5
He spoils me more than I will admit on here! I tell him not to, but he still does! I try to spoil him back as much as I can.
Post # 6
I spoil him, but he spoils me in return. I think there’s always different times where the balance is tilted toward one side more, but that’s the beauty of a marriage isn’t it? 🙂
Post # 7
We spoil each other. Right now, I feel more spoiled since he’s out of work and takes care of everything, but I try to do stuff to make him feel special too. The other night he loved that I came home and made him dinner.
Post # 8
We spoil each other but not in the parental way you mentioned. We would both be extremely uncomfortable if we reverted back to a Mommy/child or Daddy/child kind of relationship with each other. I know he would be turned off if we had sex and then I laid his clothes out for the next day, lol! But my parents always were like this and for them (46 years and STILL crazy mad in love) it totally works!
We do things like leave little love notes in each others bags before work, send sweet texts throughout the day, make surprise vacations for each other (even just a little getaway weekend in AC), pick up the other person’s favorite ice cream or candy while shopping…that kind of stuff. We both do the cleaning around the house pretty evenly, I do the laundry and he cooks. Since we both work full time (his hours are much longer but I also go to school full time so it’s about the same) neither of us would feel right with one person having the bulk of household chores.
Post # 9
I think we spoill each other in the way we appreciate each other. We share household stuff for the most part. I do most of the cooking and often make him breakfast and lunch, but not always. Do a lot of the errands because I have more time in the day. But he always says thank you and brags to his co workers about the good food he gets for lunch when they buy everyday. He always comes up behind me to give me a kiss of shoulder rub and says thank you, and I do the same for him. Or tells me if I am tired to make sure to wake him up to take the dog out (he doesnt wake when she whines, but I always do-mommys instinct?)
We dont take each other for granted and I dont believe that either of us feels feels the workload of the house is uneven
Post # 10
I have the same instinct! She’ll whine once and I’m up and he will sleep until she’s barking…..’dog duties’ is a HUGE bargaining chip at our house, lol!
Post # 11
My hubby spoils me… but I admit, I make up for it in the bedroom 🙂