Post # 1
…you delay it anything past a few days or weeks after the wedding?
I’m under the impression you can call it whatever you want no matter if you leave the day after the wedding or a year after. Someone calling their 1 year anniversary vacation their honeymoon takes nothing away from me and what we call it.
To the bees that delayed did you get people giving you their opinions on if it was a good idea or not or if you should call it something else? Seems pretty ridiculous to me.
We wanted to delay it due to finances but my mother was basically “You can’t do that! then it’s not a honeymoon” and then the next thing we knew my grandmother paid for it so we could have it right after the wedding.
I had no idea people felt so strongly on the timing of a honeymoon.
Post # 3
Ours was 7 months after the wedding and we still called it a honeymoon.
Post # 4
Eh-people can call it what they will and it’s not going to change my life. Personally though, the honeymoon is a vacation that newly weds take together….if you’ve been married for a year, I don’t think you’re still a newlywed. If we weren’t able to go somewhere for a year, we’d just call it a vacation and skipped the honeymoon bit. But I really dgaf when people call their vacations honeymoons-if they still feel like a newlywed and want to call it a honeymoon, go for it.
Post # 5
I’ve thought about this. You can call it whatever you want, and what that trip means to you is all that matters. However, to me, it wouldn’t really be a honeymoon if I take it months later. I feel like there’s something about going on vacation just a couple of days after your wedding, you’re still high off being newleyweds, calling each other husband and wife, reminiscing on the wedding, taking a break after wedding planning, unwinding and being happy that it’s over, relishing in that just married bliss, and to me I feel like all of these add to the sweetness of a honeymoon. To me it wouldn’t be the same months and months after because at that time although you are still newleyweds, the novelty of it would have worn off a bit.
Post # 6
@adayoruba: totally agree with this
Post # 7
@skippydarling: Yes. A honeymoon is a romantic trip I will take with my now-husband. If the timing doesn’t allow us to leave right after the wedding, it’s still a honeymoon if we take the trip 5 months later. For me, it will probably be the first time I’ll take a plane, and the first time I’ll go on another continent (Europe). I’ll definitely have rushes of euphoria even if it’s not right after the wedding. The trip will be meaningful, it’ll be the first real trip my SO and I will do together (other than going camping every summer). It will be different from any other vacations that has ever happenned, because there will be many novelties for us. And it will be the first of many future trips to Europe and around the world, so the first one will always be special in that matter, and will always be associated to our first year of marriage / wedding.
Post # 7
In my opinion a honeymoon is the first vacation that a couple takes after they are married. Period. Ca. Be 10 years after the wedding or 10 minutes after.
Post # 8
Ours will be around our 1 year anniversary. He was ill at the time of our wedding so we only had one night in a hotel before returning to normality. At Christmas we had a few days away (which I did refer to as our mini-moon, but wasn’t our proper honeymoon). And in the summer we plan to do the big honeymoon trip that we were unable to do last year.
A lot of our friends did a mini-moon near the time of the wedding and then their real honeymoon within the next year. That might be more of a UK thing though…
Post # 9
Mine was 4.5 months after the wedding – we were in graduate school and married at the Xmas break and went to Bermuda in May, at our next break. I had wanted to go to Bermuda for years, and knew the weather probably wouldn’t be warm enough for ocean swimming until May.
My 1st daughter to get married left for the airport, right after brunch, the day after her wedding. Flew to Greece; between time zone changes, 2 flights and connection times, it took 20 hours; they were beyond exhausted. My 2nd daughter to marry will be doing so during the end of summer break from grad. school, and either honeymooning during her fall break, or after the holidays. It is what you want it to be – your opinion matters, not your mother’s.
Post # 10
We spent our 3 month anniversary on our “honeymoon” and called it as such. Not 1 person said anything about it. But ours wasnt financial reasons it was timing to get off work. I am a teacher. We got married during spring break and waited till the summer so I was off and we could have 2 weeks for honeymoon. In my book it was absolutely perfrct but to each his own
Post # 11
“The word honeymoon has its roots in the Scandinavia. “Hjunottsmanathr” which actually describes the abduction of a bride from a neighboring village. It was imperative, that the abductor: the husband-to-be, takes his bride to be into hiding for period of time. His friends assured his and her safe keeping and kept their whereabouts unknown. Once the bride’s family gave up their search, the bride groom returned to his people. This folkloric explanation presumably is the origin of today’s honeymoon, for its original meaning meant hiding. <br /><br />The Scandinavian word for honeymoon is derived, in part, from an ancient Northern European custom in which newlyweds, for the first month of their married life, drank a daily cup of honeyed wine called mead.”
And we “still” call it a honeymoon even though going on an exotic holiday after an official wedding has nothing to do with the original meaning…..
So I think you can interpret honeymoon in this modern age as you wish 🙂
Post # 12
I think so. People take a second honeymoon years later, but you need a first honeymoon to have a second 🙂
Post # 13
skippydarling: people have “strong opinions” on everything. Dates for weddings, destination weddings, food, open bars, gift registries, oh God forbid a Honey Fund, bridal showers, honeymoons, pregnancies, how to raise your kid…. Oh, and even when in most cases you are the one shedding the $. Seriously, I’d say only way to keep your sanity is to do things your way. Although trying to be accomodating within reason and corteous, go do them exactly how you want them. Whether others like it or not. My theory is that well, someone is always not going to like it. I’t better not be me when it is my stuff!
Post # 14
I consider it the first big vacation a couple takes together. If that happens immediately after the reception, or if it happens two years later on a three week cruise of the Mediterranean, so be it.
Post # 15
We took ours 6 months later, and the travel agent made a note on our file that it was our honeymoon. We got a SWEET upgrade to a way nicer resort in the complex when we got there!