(Closed) Do you still e-stalk your SO’s ex?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

No … I used to look at whatever pictures included both Fiance and the ex (the biggie) on fb if she showed up in his friends list, but that is such a toxic thing to do!  I eventually made him unfriend all of his exgirlfriends.  Now I don’t think about it at all, ahh peace of mind 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Mars62312:  Really… you are sure you want to put this up on a public forum? 

E-Stalking and Ex (or their partner / previous partner) can be considered illegal in many places (not to mention pathetic / embarassing behaviour… sort of like Drinking & Dialing).  If I did it I sure as heck wouldn’t admit it to all the world to see.

And I’d have to ask myself, how secure I am in the relationship I am now part of.  Doesn’t sound like very adult (got my sh*t together) behaviour.

Just saying.

Post # 5
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have looked at her facebook once because she still has pictures tagged of him. Plus she’s the biggie ex, and she’ll pop up every once in awhile, so I HAVE to think about her. She’ll wish him a happy fathers day to rub in his face he doesn’t have kids yet. He REALLY wants to be a father and she had a daughter prior to them and he actually stayed with her longer than he’d like to admit because of his attachment to the child. Ugh, I delete the pictures of my past relationship almost immediately after its over. There’s no need for her to still have them.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

no.  never have. Well when we first got together I looked her up once just to get a feel of who she is.  since then i’ve just never been interested.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t even know her last name (the big one), and he doesn’t have her on FB, so I wouldn’t even know how to find her.

She was in the past, and I’m his future. Seems pointless to me.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I think it’s natural to be curious when you first start a relationship, and to scroll through your SO’s photos, but going out of my way to SEEK OUT info on his exes… nuh-uh. Why? I don’t need ghosts in my relationship working to foul things up for me. I could easily do that on my own if I wanted to. Why wouldn’t I want to give myself the best chance possible for happiness with another person? 

Trust that your partner loves you and ONLY you, and move on.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’ve been together for over 10 years now so his ex-girlfriend is from high school. I think she’s married with babies but I don’t cyber stalk, its more like common knowledge. I’ve looked up my ex-boyfriends name in a search engine though. I found out from a friend that he robbed a bank a few years ago and really wanted to find his mug shot – no idea why.

 @This Time Round:  wow

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t & never have.  My Fiance is an whole nother story. He e-stalks my ex, but has just reason to.  (To long to explain on here.)  But its just to keep tabs and see what kind of bull he is slinging now.

Post # 14
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have looked into his “big one” but only because I was curious.  Apparently she used to be a model for a reputable magazine back when they dated.  Of course I wanted to compare.  It made me feel better to know that she had had the same horrible haircut for at least 10 years. Silly how little things can make you feel confident in yourself.  I would be careful not to go overboard though.  And if he finds out it will surely alienate him.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

I never e-stalked any of my FI’s exes. Honestly, I don’t even know their last names!

Once in a while I e-stalk one of MY exes, you know, just to make sure that my life is still way more awesome than theirs. 😉 But everyone does that right?!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Hells yes. Well, as much as I can.

I also kind of borderline real-stalk her. She lives literally one block away from my sister and her boyfriend’s house and when I’m there walking my dog, I always kind of keep an eye out to see if she’s out and, if so, how fat she’s gotten.

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