Post # 1
A few years ago I frequented a gym and met a number of friendly acquaintance gym buddies. Although we never talked about our personal lives, I was almost positive those guys were single. This was before I got engaged/married, so I never wore a ring to the gym.
I went back to that same gym this week, and recognized the gym buddies. I had my ring on and noticed none of them came up to me to say hi or anything. It’s likely they forgot who I was, but I noticed they did a double take so I’m pretty sure I was recognized.
Made me wonder…if the ring had anything to do with the change in behaviors? Were the gym buddies friendlier back then because I had no ring, and don’t want to talk to me now that I am married?
What’s also funny is that at the gym there was also a really shy guy who would always observe from afar but we NEVER spoke. When he saw me return this week he approached me and said he recognized me from before and made small talk. I wondered why he came up to me when we never talked before.
Again, made me wonder.. did he have more confidence to talk to me since I had a ring on? Like there’s no threat of him hitting on me?
What about you bees? Ever notice a difference?
Post # 2
I have been approached a handful of times or more and it’s really hard to explain that im married because i lost my ring last year and haven’t gotten to replacing it so when i tell them i feel they get offended as if I was lying lol but oh well
Post # 3
Going off my own experience, I do not think men notice. I used to get hit on only occasionally. I now seem to get hit on more often, if anything. I think women pay lots more attention to the ring finger than men do.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
I don’t get outright hit on but my rings don’t stop nasty guys from checking me out… Unfortunately.
Post # 5
sosojamie: I can tell you as an older (plus 50) married bee rings are no deterrent at all. Many guys assume you are bored and willing to cheat just because they are. In my “about me” section on my facebook page, I wrote “happily married and not looking for new relationships”.It doesn’t stop anything. Not all men are like that (thankfully but these are the ones who don’t even approach you if they lihe you) but some are really bad. Their “men’s magazines” (like Maxim) seem to encourage this behavior and even gives them tips.
Post # 6
Frequently… :/ Rings are inconsequential to many, many people.
Post # 7
In my experience, if someone is friendly and flirty in a non skeevy way then notices my rings, he usually changes his direction from trying to hit on me to just complimenting me then going on his way, which is actually very sweet.
If they’re skeevy, they just make some gross or stupid comment that I eyeroll. I don’t think those men notice the ring or anything else other than themselves. ugh.
Post # 8
I do still get hit on, which is always kind of a surprise at my age. I just politely decline.
The rings don’t seem to make a difference.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement
Not yet married, but engaged. I’ve noticed that I still get hit on and catcalled a lot. It’s disgusting and makes me feel gross. My body is not an invitation to hit on me. Ugh. I know they all see the ring on my finger, they just don’t care.
Post # 10
I do too, not as much anymore, but here and there. Usually the grocery store. It’s still cold where I live, so my mittens are on 24/7.
I did get hit on while we were on our Honeymoon, that still makes me chuckle.
Post # 11
happybunny177: I would think 90% of guys don’t think to look for a ring-IMO it’s not something on a single guy’s mind.
That said, I was food shopping recently when an old man said to me “I see that you’re married, but that doesn’t mean I can’t flirt with you.”…Actually, that’s exactly what it means.
Post # 12
It’s not just the ring (for the record I’m not married or engaged), in general many men won’t care. I’ve had guys hit on me several times and I told them that I have a boyfriend (I even said husband a few times because I thought there is no way they will be interested then). The answer was often ‘Ah ok. So what options do we have?’
Post # 13
WhatMaeBee: I had some guy come up to me in the grocery store too! He asked if he could take me out, I told him I was engaged and his response was “well we dont have to tell anyone”. Not to mention he totally looked like a serial killer….ew.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2018 - Leu gardens, orlando
Well seeing as I’ve never been hit on before I can’t see it will happen after I get married lol
Post # 15
I don’t even like to use the “I already have a boyfriend/hussband” line – too easy for men to think you’re only saying no because you’re already taken and that you just need a bit of persuasion! Maybe my blunt “no” is a bit rude lol but it gets the message across.