(Closed) Do you still get approached/hit on as a married bee?

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have been approached a handful of times or more and it’s really hard to explain that im married because i lost my ring last year and haven’t gotten to replacing it so when i tell them i feel they get offended as if I was lying lol but oh well

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Going off my own experience, I do not think men notice.  I used to get hit on only occasionally.  I now seem to get hit on more often, if anything.  I think women pay lots more attention to the ring finger than men do. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I don’t get outright hit on but my rings don’t stop nasty guys from checking me out… Unfortunately.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

sosojamie:  I can tell you as an older (plus 50) married bee rings are no deterrent at all. Many guys assume you are bored and willing to cheat just because they are. In my “about me” section on my facebook page, I wrote “happily married and not looking for new relationships”.It doesn’t stop anything. Not all men are like that (thankfully but these are the ones who don’t even approach you if they lihe you) but some are really bad. Their “men’s magazines”  (like Maxim) seem to encourage this behavior and even gives them tips.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Frequently… :/ Rings are inconsequential to many, many people.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

In my experience, if someone is friendly and flirty in a non skeevy way then notices my rings, he usually changes his direction from trying to hit on me to just complimenting me then going on his way, which is actually very sweet.

If they’re skeevy, they just make some gross or stupid comment that I eyeroll. I don’t think those men notice the ring or anything else other than themselves. ugh.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I do still get hit on, which is always kind of a surprise at my age. I just politely decline.

The rings don’t seem to make a difference.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement

Not yet married, but engaged. I’ve noticed that I still get hit on and catcalled a lot. It’s disgusting and makes me feel gross. My body is not an invitation to hit on me. Ugh. I know they all see the ring on my finger, they just don’t care.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I do too, not as much anymore, but here and there. Usually the grocery store. It’s still cold where I live, so my mittens are on 24/7.

I did get hit on while we were on our Honeymoon, that still makes me chuckle.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

happybunny177:  I would think 90% of guys don’t think to look for a ring-IMO it’s not something on a single guy’s mind.

That said, I was food shopping recently when an old man said to me “I see that you’re married, but that doesn’t mean I can’t flirt with you.”…Actually, that’s exactly what it means. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

It’s not just the ring (for the record I’m not married or engaged), in general many men won’t care. I’ve had guys hit on me several times and I told them that I have a boyfriend (I even said husband a few times because I thought there is no way they will be interested then). The answer was often ‘Ah ok. So what options do we have?’

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

WhatMaeBee:  I had some guy come up to me in the grocery store too! He asked if he could take me out, I told him I was engaged and his response was “well we dont have to tell anyone”. Not to mention he totally looked like a serial killer….ew. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Leu gardens, orlando

Well seeing as I’ve never been hit on before I can’t see it will happen after I get married lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I don’t even like to use the “I already have a boyfriend/hussband” line – too easy for men to think you’re only saying no because you’re already taken and that you just need a bit of persuasion! Maybe my blunt “no” is a bit rude lol but it gets the message across.

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