(Closed) do you still hang out with your friend? if its a man

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: would u hang out with a male who wasn't ur fi ?
    yes : (73 votes)
    80 %
    no its odd : (11 votes)
    12 %
    some times : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    8359 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    A friend is a friend. Their gender should not come into it.

    Post # 5
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    9631 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I would only hang out with male friends if Fiance was there too. And Fiance only hangs out with other women with me there. It works for us, but as long as your Fiance is cool with it that’s what matters

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    @ladychaos:  one of my best friends is a male. I hang out with him multiple times a week. typically, it is just he and sitting around watching tv or movies.

     

    The fact that he’s a dude doesn’t really factor into it.

    Post # 8
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    9631 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    @ladychaos:  Fiance and I trust each other and trust each other’s friends, we just don’t hang out with members of the opposite sex alone πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    Still do. I’m not sure why it should matter. Although he hasn’t really but I don’t know why.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have two very close guy friends (close emotionally, not geographically unfortunately) – one I met around the same time I met Darling Husband (high school) and another is a college friend.  Darling Husband and I never would’ve worked if he had an issue with my guy friends – then again, it goes both ways. He has some good girl friends.

    When we hang out, the other is always invited. However, our schedules don’t mesh well, so it’s not unusual for me to hang out with one of them without Darling Husband. I just got back from a vacation to Puerto Rice with both of them – Darling Husband couldn’t go.

    A friend is a friend, regardless of gender, imo. Now if there’s romantic/sexual history between you, that could change my opinion.

    Post # 12
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    2074 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Actually, if I hang out with my male friends it tends to be 3 of them at once, since that is our little group from when we were in Scouts together! One time we had a get-together at one of their universities and we all crashed on his floor overnight, shock horror. My Fiance lived with 3 girls in his last year of uni, we’re both happy with such things. I think provided the trust and respect is there it’s really no big deal.

    Post # 13
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    1541 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We don’t put restrictions like this on eachother. If your Fiance says you can’t hangout with the opposite sex, I think that shows a lack of trust.

    When we FIRST started dating and I’d hang out with some of my guy friends, he asked me about it. We talked about them and reasured eachother we’re “just friends.” But, in the beginning stages, everyone has insecurities.

    Friends are friends. I wouldn’t want him sleeping over some girls house, but grabbing a drink or hanging out is no big deal. If we want to spend the next 60 years together, there will be times when I’m not around to watch him.

    Post # 14
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    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Jacqui90:  +1

    @ladychaos:  We don’t have a “rule” about this or anything, I just have noticed that we pretty much do everything together, including hanging out with friends of the opposite sex. Typically, if someone asks one of us to do something, it’s just assumed it’s both of us. If there was a scheduling conflict, we’d just go hang out on a night when we both could go.

    Post # 15
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    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    As long as your fiance is ok with it, go for it! Go have fun, no reason to sit at home just because fiance couldnt go with you.

    Post # 16
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    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @ladychaos:  I think he might feel weird if it’s a one on one thing instead of a group thing, but mostly because in my experience men aren’t interested in being my friend and he knows that. I haven’t had a male friend in several years other than a few gay guys that I see from time to time.

     

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