Post # 1
Curious, For those of you married, do you still keep in contact with your ex’s parents or siblings?
I am friends with my ex’s mom and sister on facebook, we were really close, i even lived with them while i was finishing high school…. i moved out (they live in Missouri), just kinda left one day to move in with my dad in CA, and we stayed together for about a year, when he cheated on me. I still stayed in contact with his mom and sister, all through out his sisters pregnancys and everything… but once i got engaged i kinda stopped talking to them, i was so busy with planning our wedding and work at the time, we just kinda lost touch, but last week, his mom sent me a message on FB and said how much she hates his new wife (yes he married the person he cheated on me with, and they have a kid now!), and i should move back, and she know he is not happy with her… whole bunch of crap…. Now i dont really want to talk to her anymore but feel bad to just cut her off. I have a new family and mother-in-law that i love and dont want to be kinda stuck juggling three families (mine, my husbands and my ex’s) Also my husband is not to happy about the messages she is sending, we share a FB account…
anyways that kinda went off topic, do any of you talk with your ex’s parents or brothers and sisters?
Post # 3
I am still in touch with my ex’s Mom. His Dad has passed away, or I would be with him too. They are still my children’s grandparents and they are lovely people.
They have always been supportive after I left their son, and went back to school. My kids and I both vist them and vice versa.
Post # 4
I don’t, but conversely my family still has facebook contact with one of my exes. I find it a bit odd and unsettling… not that I think they might like him more than Fiance (they love FI), but it’s just weird to me. This ex used to go to my mom a lot of relationship advice while we were dating, too, which I was also uncomfortable with.
Post # 5
I’m in touch with my ex’s mom and sister. Near the end of high school my mom and I were clashing badly so I moved out and lived with them for quite some time. She always calls herself my “other mommy” and god love her 😛
My Fiance isn’t THRILLED about her, but he doesn’t mind it much. She is more excited about this upcoming wedding than most of my friends, even, and has never suggested her son and I get back together. We are both quite happy in our respective lives.
Post # 6
No, not at all. Immediately after the break up, his mom was calling me a lot explaining and questioning and talking to me about her son. At the time I appreciated it, but eventually I stopped taking to her completely because he was just such a crazy pants! lol
Post # 7
I defriended my ex and his friends/family when he moved out. I promptly blocked them when things got ugly in court. I find it unsettling that my FI’s family are all still friends with his ex on fb and if I found out they were actually in contact with her (e.g. more than just on a friends’ list) I would be irritated and offended.
Post # 8
No. I’ve run into some of them and am friendly, but we don’t talk regularly.
However – I dated a guy who used to call me all the time up until he got married (he missed me blah blah). The feeling was not mutual – but he bought a house very near to my grandmother and calls my mom occasionally (and my mom didn’t/doesn’t really care for him). It’s bizarre.
Post # 9
well…Darling Husband1 isn’t my ex, but i’m no longer married to him so i guess it’s a comparable situation, at least on that level. yes, i’m still in active contact with my former ILs. they are nice people, and my son is their only grandchild, so we have a good relationship. they even like Fiance. lol
Post # 10
@cardus: I like this. My former IL’s were good grandparents and it makes me sad that they feel that they can’t be involved in their lives because of XH drama.
Post # 11
I keep in sort of contact with his sister, but I’m still in minimal contact with him. We ended our relationship on a friendly note, he’s engaged now, and we still meet up for coffee once a year and his sister and I were friends in highschool.
Post # 12
Even though I was with my ex 6-7 years, I actually never really saw his parents much or talked to them, so I definitely didnt after the break up. I used to hang out with his sister and stuff too while with him, but we definitely didnt stay friends afterwards either. It was more a superficial friendship anyhow because I was with her brother.