(Closed) Do you still tip if you already paid a gratuity?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

gratuity is more or less synonymous with tip, so you do not have to tip more, unless you want to.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think of the gratuity as the tip, so unless the vendor were to go waaaaay above and beyond my expectations, then you don’t need to tip.

It’s kinda like when you are at a restaurant in a larger group, they just automatically (at many places) add a gratuity.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

P.S. My reception site’s gratuity is 20% of all food & drinks. I don’t know if that’s typical, but that’s what ours is.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Unfortunately, it is typical of many places – especially hotels and conference/event centers.  Though in some cases, folks still expect an additional tip *on top of* the 20% already added.  crazy madness.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

yeah i’m not giving an additional tip unless they are very amazing… our gradtuity is 18% (if i remember correctly) this and is already thousandS above what our bill is… so yeah…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

 

   Is it necessary?  No.  Is it nice? Yes, it’s always nice to be generous.  

  If you do tip, always tip during the beginning of the fuction.  It ensures excellent service. The gratuity placed on your bill is split between A LOT of people.  You don’t see many of the behind the scenes people.    Personally, I would have the banquet manager gather the staff prior to the event and have someone you trust hand out envelopes containing something and a nice thank you.  I’m not sure what you’re thinking about for a tip, but put yourself in the server’s shoes.. you’re making 8-9 dollars and hour, someone hands you an envelope from the bride and groom with an extra (insert number here) bucks in it… wouldn’t you want to show your appreciation for their kindness? Wouldn’t you think this is like the coolest couple in the world?

  Trust me, the waitstaff will respond with beyond excellent service.

 

   I worked in a restaraunt all through college to support myself.  During my time there we did a few weddings.  Most weddings were for about 120 people with 18 percent gratuity.  We all worked for about 12 hours (set up and break down 2p.m. 2a.m.) for an hourly wage of 5.00 an hour.  When we recieved our gratuity at the end of the night we all walked with a 100 dollars- for 12 hours of hard work.   

 

 

 

 

 

  

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Gratuity=tip.  You may add to it if you want to but I think it is rare–and then you would have to be specific on how to distribute it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

In my humble opinion: NO!!!!  You’re already tipping a huge chunk of change — probably in the thousands of dollars range, and you’re not an ATM. 

Also in my experience as a caterer, tips often don’t get split evenly.  Where I worked we officially weren’t allowed to accept tips, so it was all done under the table.  This means that one person was often able to pocket a hefty amount of money, while the rest simply got their hourly wages.  And the level of service doesn’t always correspond with tipping alone.  It also depends on how curteous guests are to the staff and such.  Bottom line: additional tips are unneccessary unless you’ve got a big ol’ wad of cash burning a whole in your pocket.  And after a wedding, who does?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Maureen, our servers make a whopping $25/hour, so I’d ask what their hourly rate is before you decide what to tip!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

dang, i calculated, even if i only worked a 8-5 day (which I don’t, usually i don’t leave til much later…8 or 10PM is very usual), i make $4.30 an hour…

the place i’m having a wedding said they pay their people well and that’s where the gratuity goes… if you think about it, they must if the gratuity is already a few thousand and divide that by even 20 people, they’re making about 200+ a day… that’s pretty darn good.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Tips should not be expected and unfortunately many places and people have come to expect tips no matter the service.  As the gratuity is already calculated in your price, I would only tip extra if the service is above and beyond.  JMHO.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Rebecca-  I would never ask how much a server or anyone else was paid.  If someone came to the location you worked for a service your employer provided what would you think if the customer inquired as to how much you were paid?!  You’d be turned off, as would your boss.

  A tip is to show your appreciation, it doesn’t matter how much they are paid.  Like I said, it is not necessary- it is nice. 

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