Post # 1
I’m looking for both Christian and non-Christian answers to this one!
I’m sure most of you know in the Bible it states “wives submit to your husbands”. I was reading an article where the husband punished their son differently than the wife thought he should have (not abusively though, just differently) and the wife had to tell herself that she was to submit to her husband and not argue.
I am Christian, so I believe what the Bible says is true, but I have a hard time thinking that I can’t speak my mind or whatever. Opinions??
ETA : I agree this “one section” is definitely blown out of proportion and you have to read the whole passage. Just curious on other’s opinions! 🙂
Post # 3
Ahem. Sorry. I’m not a Christian, but stuff like this has always been my reasoning as to why I’m not.
Post # 4
There is no way in this universe that I would EVER marry a man who would expect me to submit to him. Heck! I wouldn’t even date someone who gave that impression.
I’m the dominant, he’s the submissive, that’s the way our relationship works.
We’re both happy.
Post # 5
No. We won’t make a decision unless both of us are on board with it 100%. There has never been a time in our marriage where we’ve been at odds over something and I say “Well, you’re the man, I trust you to make the final decision.” No no. Not judging the many happy and peaceful marriages who find this works for them, but I am far too much of a control freak for that.
Post # 6
ha, i would like to see my husband try!
but…. i do treat him as man of the house, we live a very 1950’s homelife where he is called when dinner is on the table ready for him, he doesnt do any chores and i dont even change the color of our towels because he likes blue, he is very much pampered.
hes not demanded any of this – its what i like to do for him because there is many things he does for me – im a physcial take charge type of person and i show my love by doing things whereas hes emotional so we balance eachother because we recongnize that we are equals but we bring different important parts to our marriage
Post # 7
I respect my fiance but I would never say that I “submit” to him. In fact, I have the stronger (and sometimes slight abrasive and definitely opinated) personality and he is a people pleaser and extremely easy going, so I would say he sometimes submits to me. BUT I prefer for him not to, because I don’t ever want him to be resentful of how often I get my way. It’s been over 3 years (together, not married yet) and he’s learning to say no to me, and I listen or we find a compromise when he does because it’s so rare he does.
I’m not a Christian though and don’t follow the bible. So I’m not sure if that makes a difference.
Post # 8
Do you do everything the bible tells you to do (or not do)?
Post # 9
I won’t ever submit to a man again. Husband or otherwise. Mister believes I am his partner, his equal. And therefore that I should have an equal say in matters of the two of us. He does not step into me and my children, since they are not his, unless I ask. We challenge each other, that was what brought us together, and I won’t become a doormat just because the bible says so. Because, it also says I can sell my daughter into slavery.
Post # 10
Not an option in our household. We make decisions together and I certainly wouldn;t step back and say well since you are the man. I learned how to have my own independence for too long. I did submit at one point to a man, it was an abusive relationship and that is a road I will never go down again.
Post # 11
No not at all. I am not perfect by any means and I (personally) belive that while the Bible is not up for interpretation, perhaps we sometimes read the verses the wrong way. Hence why I want opinions here. Also I’m just curious.
ETA : Since I’m asking your opinions here’s mine! I personally believe we should be equals, although I’m definitely too controlling and need to step back sometimes!! 😉
Post # 12
Ok good. You had me worried there. I’d say that this is one of the things that the bible is quite wrong about.
Post # 13
I believe that God gave both men and women brains so they could use them. A marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship. I believe a marriage in which a women keeps her opinions and thoughts to herself is only going to lead to resentment and unhappiness.
Post # 14
I am a christian but I do not follow every single thing thats written in the bible. For some people that makes me a horrible person but whatever….
I think we are created equal and just because hes a man doesnt mean hes better than I am or has the final say so.
Anyone that knows us in RL knows I run this show! LMAO
Post # 15
Whaaaaaaaa?! No way! We make all decisions together! It can be a challenge sometimes because our opintion for mot things is usually “I don’t know”
A marriage is a partnership and I think that both individuals need to treat each other like equals.
Post # 16
Despite what the bible says, doing what feels right and comfortable and true to yourself is never the wrong path. Just like there are many Christians who do not believe homosexuality is a sin, there are many women who embrace their place in the household as a partner to their husband, not a submissive role.