Post # 1
Waiting bees, do you think you have an idea of when it’ll happen? If you had talked about getting engaged in general, did you start to suspect or have a guess as to the more exact when, like the time/place?
Engaged bees, if you suspected, were you right?
Post # 2
I knew it was coming since we designed the ring together. The day he proposed he was acting different. More nervous, but also very loving. Looking back, I should have known it was coming but I was just enjoying the wonderful time we were having together.
Post # 3
I am pretty sure I know when it is going to happen, but not 100% positive. I really hop I’m right, though because it’s coming up and I am not very patient. Haha
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I knew he had the ring so my radar was up, so I definitely suspected it on the day he proposed, but I wasn’t 100% certain. If I hadn’t known about the ring I don’t think I would’ve suspected anything was up.
Post # 5
We talked about getting engaged and wedding stuff. I did pick out the ring I wanted last summer. Now I know he has the ring. Pretty sure he has had it since early this year. I found it accidentally in March of this year. This has caused me to think he was going to propose many times yet still nothing. I keep waiting and getting my nails done and waiting. We are gong on vacation in August so maybe then. We don’t go and do a whole lot of romantic outings/date nights so it will be hard for him to surprise me I think. If he actually planned a romantic evening I would totally know something was up. Not to mention that he gets really nervous under pressure so I think I would be able to tell. I’ve been dropping hints that we need a date night and giving him ideas but still nothing. I guess I’m just going to have to plan some date nights. I really want to be surprised.
Post # 6
Not waiting anymore, but I had no clue, which people think is funny since we’d been together over 10 years at that point. I was totally caught off guard, and wouldn’t have it any other way. When I was waiting it consumed my thoughts, and honestly, the surprise made it that more awesome. That’s why I always want to tell waiting bees to not snoop or look, because once you know the ring is there I feel like it takes a little bit of the surprise out of it. I didn’t even know DH had purchased a ring!!
Post # 7
I knew it was coming. We had talked about marriage, talked about rings and he was waiting to ask for my fathers permission.
He asked my dad on Thanksgiving and proposed shortly after my parents left the next day so I didn’t really wait long. Did start wondering how long he would wait but had an answer about 30 min later.
that said, this board is full of posts from women who thought they knew it was coming and then were wrong and were horribly disappointEd. Many of them became so frustrated and angry they ruined evenings out or vacations. So be careful about expecting it. Probably better to just be along for the ride and it will come when it comes.
Post # 8
That’s what I’m talking about — not if you were completely surprised out of nowhere, but once you know he is ring shopping, it is hard not to start wondering when it’ll actually come. Since you know it is in fact coming!
I agree about not snooping.
Ruining an evening over unmanaged expectations is a shame. I am a bubbly kind of person and enjoy the excitement of it all. If it doesn’t happen when I suspect it will, that just means that I get more excitement spread out over more days. +edit: I am also the person who guesses movie/book plot twists and spoilers very early on and much to the surprise of others. I am pretty good at picking up subtle clues and it is almost a game to me, so it’s hard not to do it in real life for something like this. But again, that’s just my idea of fun!
Post # 9
We’ve spoken about marriage and a vague timeline, but I have no idea whatsoever when it’s coming. He wants to choose the ring himself, without any input from me, so I won’t even have that to go by. I am steeling myself for a lot of disappointing getaways, Christmasses, birthdays and dates over the course of the next year. (I always always get my hopes up!). I do want to be surprised (I guess …), but maybe not this surprised, and I am a little worried that I won’t like my ring. But then again, when I browse at rings myself I feel so overwhelmed by the choice that part of me is happy I don’t have to make it.
There has been no indication that he has looked at rings at all, but it’s my guess he would be able to keep it a complete secret.
So, in short, I couldn’t be more in the dark than if I were blindfolded and living in a cave … at midnight … with my eyeballs removed.
Post # 10
I think there’s a difference between “getting hopes up” out of nowhere and suspecting it’ll happen based on having talked about it and knowing that it will likely be soon. That’s a bummer, but at least you are managing it. I love the cave at midnight blindfolded analogy though! 🙂
Post # 11
I know my SO pretty well so I know it will probably be a significant day as he isn’t much of a planner and would take advantage of an already important day. Just as he asked me to be his girlfriend on Valentine’s Day 5.5 years ago.
My best guess is that he will ask me this next February on our 6 year anniversary as we have had some good marriage/wedding discussions in the past year and it’s on both of our minds. If it isn’t Valentine’s Day my birthday is less than a month after Valentine’s Day which would be my next best guess.
I try not to ask many questions because I would like it to be a surprise. I don’t at all love the waiting stage…but I also don’t mind waiting a bit longer for him and not stressing him out.
Post # 12
I had actually convinced myself it wasn’t going to happen for a while so I was completely surprised! About 30 seconds before DH proposed I had the thought, “Wow this would be a great time for SO to propose! This is a serious missed opportunity!” because we were back at the place we had first met. Stupid me, didn’t even realize that was part of his plan! He’s REALLY good at keeping secrets. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2017 - The Olmsted
I was actually accidentally told by my father before my fi proposed. I was out visiting my now Fi and my dad called sunday night and said, “do you all have anything you want to share with your step mom and me??? Because hank and I had a talk and we can’t wait to hear the great news!”
I was like no what are you talking about. He quickly said nothing and hung up the phone. I knew exactly what my dad was talking about and I never told my fi that my dad slipped up.
I had to wait two weeks until I could go back out to visit my lovely guy. He proposed in DC and said he haD planned to do sooner but wanted to wait.
Post # 14
To be honest, I had zero clue. I thought it was going to be happening the summer before, so I got discouraged and gave up after he said it’ll happen when it happens and that having a piece of paper didn’t show the level of commitment of a couple. Turns out he planned for the ring during work so it wasn’t any weird late evening visits to a jeweler or anything. Also, my parents gave no indication about him asking, which definitely surprised me because they are the worst at keeping secrets. It honestly wasn’t until we were on the beach and he started his speech when I thought to myself, wow, this would be a great spot to propose, maybe this is actually happening right now. LOL. Well it did!
And he was able to have both our families together to surprise us up at our campsite after with a surprise engagment celebration. It was awesome and so sneaky of him especially since our families had to travel over 5 hours to be there with us.
Post # 15
I sort of have an inkling for a window of time that it could be.. We go away on a weeklong romantic tropical vacation on September 5th, and he has said he’s going to propose before Christmas.
So that’s about a 3.5-4 month window.. If I had to guess more specifically, I’d think maybe Thanksgiving time, since it’s the anniversary of when we met.