(Closed) Do You Talk About Your SO at Work?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do your coworkers know your SO's name?

    Yes, I refer to my SO by name in convos.

    No, I only refer to them as my SO.

    No, I don't talk about anything not work related at work (the less, the better!)


  • Post # 2
    4521 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We all do in my office. I don’t divulge personal details, and wouldn’t, but I know their SO’s names. It’s a small office of mostly women.

    Post # 3
    773 posts
    Busy bee

    I talk about non work-related things, but I don’t talk about who I’m dating. If I did, I’d just call them my boyfriend. Idk… I’m working at work, I rarely have time to chat.

    Post # 4
    36 posts
    • Wedding: October 2015

    My future Mother-In-Law is our office manager at my current job, so they all know my fiance by name, but we all know everyone’s SO names. I don’t think it’s weird you spend all day with coworkers, I think it’s normal to talk and chat to everyone. 

    Post # 5
    6332 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    DH and I work for the same company but in different projects.  There’s a small group of people that work directly with me that know his name, but with everyone else I refer to him as my husband.

    Post # 7
    3212 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    My workplace and his partner on a lot of things… And my boss and my SO have the same name. Everyone he works with refers to my SO as “my J–,” (as do I) to the point where my boss jokes that he is going to just refer to my SO as “my J–.”

    Post # 8
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Calamigos Ranch

    I think it all depends on how much you like and know your coworkers. Mine all know my fiance’s name and I know their SO names. We chat about them all the time! And we do a lot of office outings where +1s are always welcome, so they see him a lot. Which is really fun. We’re more like a family than an office! 

    Post # 9
    36 posts
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Yes, we get along great! It probably helps that we are on different sides of the office! Lol, we barely see each other, but I’m lucky she is good to work with.

    Post # 10
    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

    I have a really small team so we all know each other SO names etc and basics of each other’s lives. It helps we are all around the same age and life status too. 

    Post # 11
    6411 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    LAAnonBee:  I think it may be a man thing.  I’ve become friends with my co-workers including going out to lunch them several times during the week.  For my female co-workers I know their husbands/SO’s name by heart and vice versa.  For my male co-workers they know my name, and my husband’s name sometimes, only one or two know it by heart.  The other one always forgets so with him I refer to him as my husband.  We’ll call the male friends A, B, and C.  A and B know my husband well, they’ve met him a few times and my husband knows that I hang out with A and B often during work for lunch.  C I only hang out when B is around.  Thankfully it’s an even distribution of men and women in my office.

    Post # 12
    7892 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    When we were first dating, I didn’t mention him at all to coworkers. Then I started to refer to him as “my boyfriend.” By the time we got engaged, I was working with a more consistent group of colleagues and then would refer to him by his first name but sometimes still Fiance or now DH if we weren’t as close. When he’s mentioned, it’s always in good taste and never complaining or anything like that. 

    Post # 13
    126 posts
    Blushing bee

    I actually work with my SO. No one in the company knows and I prefer it that way. I don’t refer to him by name, I just call him “the boyfriend”

    Post # 14
    5082 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I only work closely with 3 other people and my boss. We are quite close and are also friends outside of work (aside from my boss). We discuss everything, we know who is who and what is going on. We even talk to our boss about personal things as well. DH talks about me at work all the time, to coworkers and customers, they all knew who I was long before any of them met me.

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