Post # 1
So, I have a coworker that I’m fairly close with, who’s daughter is getting married around the same time I am, and she’s fairly involved in planning (and paying for) the wedding . Sometimes when we discuss our respective plans, she’ll ask how much we paid for a photographer, or per plate for dinner, or if I find something I’ll be like… I picked up such and such for super cheap with a coupon at Michaels, definitely check it out of “Andrea” is interested in having them.
She’s definitely invited to my wedding, so sometimes I feel that it might be a little awkward that she knows the price point on a few things, especially that are going to affect her like the food and drink, but at the same time I feel like we’re all in this game together, so it’s good to share info. I definitely don’t think there’s any one-upping or anything going on, just comparison shopping.
Are you guys willing to share the price of things if people ask?
Post # 3
If someone wants to know for their own planning purposes, then yes I will tell them. I want to be as helpful as possible. However, if people want to know just to know the cost of things I do not share. I do not want people associating a price tag with my wedding.
Post # 4
In a situation like that, I have no qualms sharing info about prices. Sometimes my friend and I can help each other find a good deal, and we have fun talking about that stuff! I think if it was someone who wasn’t planning a wedding, I would be more hesitant about sharing how much I’ve been spending. I don’t think I could share prices from food and such at the reception, but if I am DIYing something I don’t mind sharing… like my invites!
Post # 5
i generally shared costs with people who were planning. no one else really asked me.
Post # 6
I work with a girl that is planning a wedding a few months after mine and we are invited to each others. We are pretty much full disclosure. I think it’s nice to have someone that even cares enough to be talking about that nitty gritty of wedding stuff with…since most people could care less…and I certainly don’t blame them.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I don’t talk about money with anyone except my mom, who helps me plan, and FH, because it’s his money too. And that’s it! 🙂
If it were something specific, like another bride asking about something, I’d talk about it with them. Other than that, I just have an aversion to talking about money with people, in general.
Post # 8
I know a LOT of people getting married. I don’t mind telling them how much things were if it’s things that don’t generally affect them, like my dress was super cheap so I told them! I am not telling them how much food is, plates etc… thats just not really pertinent bc everyone has different food preferences, decor styles etc
Post # 9
i don’t mind telling specific amounts for things like dress/shoes/veil. but when people ask my total wedding budget i am like GTFO!
Post # 10
For me if I buy something for my wedding for an awesome price I can’t help but brag about it to everyone. But for vendor prices I can see how it can be akward at times.
Post # 11
I talk about it mostly on here and with people who care like Future Sister-In-Law. Other than that nobody really. Future Sister-In-Law is basically my wedding planner, so I definitely tell her because she gets excited when I find a good deal.
Post # 12
I think I’ve only talked about it with people who are planning and could benefit from the info or on this site. When I do talk about it with people who are planning, I try to stress how everyone prioritizes differently and that it was what was right for us. If you feel uncomfortable talking about it with your coworker, or anyone else, I definitely don’t think you have an obligation!
Post # 13
yes, i did this with a co-worker and my best friend who was getting married right after me. shared a lot of prices on things like my diy projects, per plate, all my vendors. my coworker even took floral design classes, jewelry making classes and calligraphy classes with me. but it was a little awkward sometimes because we compared our weddings so much with each other, it felt a little competitive and in the end the two other girls broke it off with their men while dh and i still had our big wedding… talk about awkward!
Post # 14
The only people that know how much we paid for things are our vendors and us. People have often asked us about how much we paid for things but I usually give a vague answer. If someone is interested in our venue I give them the email address of the location and let them know that they can request a quote. We are very private when it comes to discussing money though.
Post # 15
In your situation I’d share, the same way I’d share prices here – we’re all planning together and can usethe info for perspective. In general, for wedding and non-wedding stuff, I tend to share when I find a super deal on something. Like, there’s a dress I wear for work that EVERYONE always compliments and asks about so I love saying I got it for <$20 at a Mom & Pop around the corner. Some things though, my ring, catering etc i wouldn’t feel comfortable telling people no matter what. NO ONE knows how much my ring costs except Fiance, me (and only because while checking out the GIA cert, I saw the receipt in the paperwork) and our financial advisor (because he moved around the $$ in FI’s various investment accts when he purchased it).
They say money has no place in polite conversation, so really we shouldn’t be talking about it at all. But I think if you’re both planning and using the info clearly for that purpose and not to show off,and you’re close then it’s fine.
Post # 16
I made that mistake this morning… I was talking on the phone to a married girlfriend about wedding stress and how now (at 2 weeks out) I felt like pulling my hair out. She was listening to me and offering suggestions and comfort, and then she asked me how much I was spending on everything. I felt wierd that she asked me but I felt comfortable and I gave her a round about answer. Mistake. “Ohh… wow, that’s a lot.. that’s twice as much as I spent, bla bla bla.” Mind you that she was referring to her second wedding. I wish I hadn’t.