(Closed) Do you tell people your gender preference?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Do you tell people your gender preference?



    Depends who is asking.

  • Post # 17
    7365 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think knowing your parents had a preferance is going to damage a child. Unless they harp on it all the time. It’s simply a life lesson, what you want isn’t always what you get or need. I prefer to have a boy. I’ve told everyone if the decision comes but, but I’m not TTC yet. 

    Post # 18
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I didn’t tell people.  I did have a gender preference (was hoping for a girl), but I never told people that because if I had a boy I didn’t want anybody to ask or wonder to themselves whether I was disappointed. 

    I did have a boy, and when I found out, I honestly was not disappointed in the least even though I secretly feared I would be.  I think it helped that DH really wanted a boy.  But I’m glad I didn’t have to tell people I was actually thrilled to be having a son because even though it was the truth, I feel like people wouldn’t believe me if I had already put it out there that I really wanted a daughter.

    The “don’t care as long as it’s healthy” response actually bugs the shit out of me.  Having a gender preference and wanting a healthy baby are not mutually exclusive, and I’m pretty sure every pregnant woman prioritizes her baby’s health above all else.  If you don’t have a gender preference, just say so.  No need to add “… as long as it’s healthy,” the implication being that people who do have a gender preference must not care as much about their baby’s health.


    Post # 19
    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    It was very obvious that I wanted a girl.

    It was a boy.

    Post # 20
    1868 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s funny that people ask that all the time. I am newly pregnant with my first baby… even the nurse asked me if I had a preference! haha I would really love to have both so maybe I will feel stronger about the gender with #2.

    I did however want both of my little sisters to be boys. I remember being so disappointed when I found out they were girls. I was like, “but I already have a sister!” haha kids…

    Post # 21
    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I do, but I always follow with “I’ll be happy with healthy!” 

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