Post # 17
I don’t think knowing your parents had a preferance is going to damage a child. Unless they harp on it all the time. It’s simply a life lesson, what you want isn’t always what you get or need. I prefer to have a boy. I’ve told everyone if the decision comes but, but I’m not TTC yet.
Post # 18
I didn’t tell people. I did have a gender preference (was hoping for a girl), but I never told people that because if I had a boy I didn’t want anybody to ask or wonder to themselves whether I was disappointed.
I did have a boy, and when I found out, I honestly was not disappointed in the least even though I secretly feared I would be. I think it helped that DH really wanted a boy. But I’m glad I didn’t have to tell people I was actually thrilled to be having a son because even though it was the truth, I feel like people wouldn’t believe me if I had already put it out there that I really wanted a daughter.
The “don’t care as long as it’s healthy” response actually bugs the shit out of me. Having a gender preference and wanting a healthy baby are not mutually exclusive, and I’m pretty sure every pregnant woman prioritizes her baby’s health above all else. If you don’t have a gender preference, just say so. No need to add “… as long as it’s healthy,” the implication being that people who do have a gender preference must not care as much about their baby’s health.
Post # 19
It was very obvious that I wanted a girl.
It was a boy.
Post # 20
I think it’s funny that people ask that all the time. I am newly pregnant with my first baby… even the nurse asked me if I had a preference! haha I would really love to have both so maybe I will feel stronger about the gender with #2.
I did however want both of my little sisters to be boys. I remember being so disappointed when I found out they were girls. I was like, “but I already have a sister!” haha kids…
Post # 21
I do, but I always follow with “I’ll be happy with healthy!”