(Closed) Do you tell people your moissanite isn’t a diamond?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you tell people your moissanite is not a diamond?
    Everyone close to me (family, friends, etc.) knows its a moissanite and I tell anyone if asked : (25 votes)
    21 %
    I only tell if directly complimented about it being a diamond, I let people assume : (10 votes)
    8 %
    I won't tell anyone its a moissanite but won't tell them its a diamond either : (10 votes)
    8 %
    I let people assume and won't correct them if they call it a diamond : (11 votes)
    9 %
    I tell people its a diamond : (5 votes)
    4 %
    I tell everyone who will listen about the virtues of moissanite : (5 votes)
    4 %
    I have a diamond and would never buy moissanite, so not applicable to me : (51 votes)
    43 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I picked a Moissanite for a reason I love the stone! So if someone says something about it being a diamond or everyone who is close to me knows it is not a diamond! I have even converted a few girls! 

    Post # 4
    Member
    199 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t have my moissy yet but when I do get it, our family will definately know and Im sure we will end up telling a lot of people, my SO thinks its really neat. But when people casually comment on it I will just say thank you.

    Post # 5
    Member
    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My moissanite is being set, but I won’t be telling people it isn’t a diamond. I won’t hold out my hand and announce it is a diamond, but I would’t have done that even if I had purchased a diamond. We could have afforded a diamond the same size and actually planned to get one until discovering moissanite, so our friends, family, etc. won’t question it for that reason. I don’t feel the need to advertise for moissanite (unless they plan to pay me lol), and I wouldn’t feel bad misleading someone who asks if it is a diamond. That’s incredibly rude, and, when you’re rude, you get what you get. Frankly, they are just lucky I don’t say something rude back. Also, small lies are completely accepted in society and are generally referred to as tact. Think about that next time someone asks if you think their kid is cute. Do you always think that, probably not. Do you tell them what you really think, probably not. I think it is the same principle with moissanite. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If I’m asked, I’ll tell. If they refer to it as a diamond, I’ll tell. If they just compliment it, there’s no reason to say anything at all (it’s not my concern whatever they assume, and nor do I want to assume what they may or may not be assuming, yeesh). Anyone who knows me well enough to call me a friend knows it’s moissanite though.

    ETA: Also, if the conversation about my ring turns out to be lengthy and the other person seems interested, I’d probably mention it, especially if I felt they were receptive to learning about moissanite.

    Post # 7
    Member
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’ve told my friends and family it’s moissanite, and they think it’s very interesting and cool! I generally don’t launch into a huge speech about it, but if anyone asks, I will gladly spout off the history of moissanite or the fact that it has double-refraction, etc.

    If a stranger compliments the ring, I just say thank you. I don’t think there’s much of a point giving a science lesson in the grocery store. However, if they specifically mention the word “diamond,” I explain it’s not a diamond. I live in a bit of a hippie area, so I’ve never been scoffed at or anything like that.

    Post # 8
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @obsessivebee:  Actually, that’s a good point. If someone were admiring my ring and said something like, “Oh, wow, what a beautiful diamond!” on one hand I’d want them to knows it’s not a diamond, but on the other hand it’s potentially kind of rude (or at least awkward) to point out that someone’s made an incorrect judgement, especially if it’s a fleeting encounter like at the supermarket cashier.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Absolutely yes, but no one has asked. All my friends and family know it’s a moissanite, it’s no secret I don’t wear a diamond, actually I am proud of it. They all admit they would never have guessed if I hadn’t told them. My husband notices when it changes color, on rainy days it’s a light lemony sorbet color. 

    When strangers compliment my ring I just say “Thanks!” I’m not going to launch into a full detailed description and make them sorry they said anything. If someone said “I love your diamond” I’d tell them it’s a moissanite, Google it!

    Post # 10
    Member
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    @Jezika:  Same! (: Took the words right out of my mouth

    Post # 11
    Member
    5189 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    @KatyElle:  Ditto. I am still waiting for my large moissanite to be set, but this is how I have handled it with my earring studs and pendant, and plan to with my ring as well.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    My primary reason for getting moissanite was aesthetics. I genuinely picked it because I love how it looks, though I am a big fan of knowing the stone is conflict-free and the gold is recycled, so I don’t feel the need to win any converts. It is just a stone on my hand, it isn’t trying to be anything or look like anything so I don’t owe anyone any explanations. 

    So with that said I only tell people if it comes up naturally in conversation, I work in retail and in the past week alone I have had countless women compliment my ring and my stone directly. Did I tell them all “By the way, it’s a Moissanite?” No because they just want to pay for their stuff and move on and there are other people in line who don’t want to be held up by my lecture. Did I tell my friend it was a moissanite when she asked who picked out the ring? Yes, because I could easily slide it into the conversation without it being awkward. I’ve only been engaged for a little over a month and so far only some of my friends and all of FI’s family know it’s a moissanite but I don’t have any problem with telling anyone else if it comes up.

    Post # 14
    Member
    764 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t understand why people think it’s rude if people ask if your clear sparkly stone is a diamond. I wear alot of exotic gemstones and people ask what they are all the time.. I’m not offended at all. If moissanite is a gemstone acceptable enough to be an engagement ring, what’s wrong with people asking what it is? I think the sparkle is different than a diamond and before I knew what it was, I might have asked if it was a diamond, dont get why that’s rude..

    Post # 15
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @blingbling:  Of course moissanite is “acceptable” as an engagement ring stone, that has nothing to do with anything. It’s just as rude to ask “Is that a real diamond” to someone’s large diamond ring. There are people who are happy to share and don’t care, there are people who want to keep their ring stats their own personal business. It should never be assumed that someone would feel comfortable sharing that info. Asking outright is pretty crass.

    Post # 16
    Member
    764 posts
    Busy bee

    @KatyElle:  Someone saying  “Is that a REAL diamond” is different than someoene saying “Is that a diamond” in my opinion.  I have asked if a stone was a diamond(turned out it was a white sapphire) and I didn’t consider it a rude question, I just thought the faceting was interesting and told the owner as much.  Another I asked that same quesiton and found out about the starburst cut of diamond, which was new to me. I  am known for being a jewlery lover and since I like a variety of gems  people get excited to talk to me about them, rather than come off as rude. Seems this whole moissanite vs diamond thing is getting out of hands on these boards and people are getting attacked/funky ass comments anytime they say something someone doesn’t want to hear. I guess the diff is deep down  I don’t give a good hot F! what others are wearing, and I am honest about everything I have on when asked and don’t perceive it as rude. I’m asked on a regular basis if my rings are real and have never been offended either way.  I think some people on this board sit waiting with popcorn for someone to say something they perceive as offensive so they can swoop in and
    put her in her place”. Quite frankly it’s getting old.

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