(Closed) Do you tell your FI EVERYTHING?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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1428 posts
Bumble bee

I tell him everything unless, like penguin, I am specifically asked not to. If it is something I don’t want him to mention to anyone else I tell him & I know it won’t leave the room.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Yep, he gets to hear it all.  He’s my best friend and would never tell.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I tell Mr. B almost everything. If it’s a secret that is especially awful and I am having a hard time keeping it to myself, I’ll tell Mr. B provided that I’m sure he won’t tell anyone else. I made the mistake one time of telling him something that he ended up circulating despite my telling him to keep it a secret, so I know to make some kind of judgement call on this.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

I tell him virtually everything in my life, even sometimes when I shouldn’t. It has only led to a problem one time when I told him about how a friend of mine was cheating on her boyfriend and he ended up telling the guy. I don’t condone cheating, but I also didn’t think it was our business to meddle in. At the same time some things about it were  weighing on me and I wanted to talk to my fiance about it. I definitely got yelled at for that one.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t tell him everything but that’s mostly because we are both sick of phoen conversations.

When we are married I am pretty certain we’ll be sharing a lot, although due to the nature of his post-grad school job, there will be a lot he won’t be able to talk about!

I’m one of those girls who wants to know everything without telling everything!

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I generally tell him most everything… the only things that I’ve kept back have been when people specifically say don’t tell even him. I think that’s only happened once, with something really major. He is a very good secret keeper, and I know nothing will go further than him. He on the other hand, is a little more selective in what he tells me.. his parents had information-sensitive jobs in the Army during the Cold War (as in they’re still not allowed to talk about what they did) so he believes the rest of the world should operate on a "need-to-know" basis.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i tell him most everything. there are certainly things i chose to keep to myself, whether for the sake of a friend or for his well being. i definitely tell him all the important things. i don’t withold anything substantial, but i don’t typically discuss my friends thoughts and feelings with him. i just feel like we need to keep somethings to ourselves to remain sane (plus, men simply do not want to hear every detail of our lives)!

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We just can’t keep secrets from each other. We can’t even hide birthday presents from each other! Our friends and families know we’re bad a keeping secrets, so I think they’ve realized if they need something to be kept secret from one of us, they probably shouldn’t tell either of us. My mom won’t even tell me what she’s gotten my Fiance for Hanukkah/Birthdays because she knows I will tell him! We love being so open with one another and it really works for us, but sometimes I wish I could keep a secret, especially when it comes to nice secrets like holidays and surprises. 

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

When I tell a friend something I automatically assume they will tell their SO but depending on the nature of the secret I’m told I may not tell my SO.  My best friend is married to my SO’s best friend so its hard when she tells me something I know she would not want anyone else to know, I don’t want to take a chance and betray her trust.

Post # 26
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Newbee

I tell my SO everything and I assume everyone else does too. My dad told me you have to assume that! And I think that’s right. The few times I’ve said something in confidence (or what I thought was confidence), it later came back from her SO’s mouth. Lesson learned.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I share almost everything with my husband.  When I was single I hated that my married friends shared details of my life with their SOs, but know I kind of see where they are coming from.

The stuff I don’t share is stuff that I know my friends wouldn’t want my husband to know about them or stuff that would make it awkward for him to know (ie- Everytime he see’s Jane’s husband he will forever remember the story of him losing his nut in a Blockbuster accident.)

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I share pretty much everything with my Fiance except if specifically asked not to — and I assume the same for my friends (although I’ve never asked someone to keep something a secret from their SO).  This happened to me a few weeks ago actually with one of my closest friends, and it was really tough to keep it from him – it was pretty major stuff and I wanted to process it by talking about it with him.  My Fiance is known to have a big mouth (although knows when specific things shouldn’t be shared), but it’s still kind a blow to hear/realize that your close friend doesn’t trust him. 

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