(Closed) Does your SO know of your (jealous) feelings over another couple’s engagement?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ummm yes!  But I’m not one to hold things in lol.  I think it’s important to share things like that because guys usually have no idea it even affects you.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

While I am engaged, I do struggle with these feelings a little still. I was thinking the other day about a couple I know who is two and three years younger than me possibly getting married. IT makes me think about all the time I could’ve had with Fiance but then I realize we have our whole lives. to spend together 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@Shirinjoon:have you guys talked about getting married or looking at rings any time soon? 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I didn’t ever have to experience an egagement, but I did have to experience a wedding. 

I just said… awe this is so purdy.  I can’t wait until its us getting married!

But I wanted to say.. when the heck is this gonna be us?  But I bit my tongue lol

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Shirinjoon: That’s what I did! i mean, there are people who have met, dated, gotten engaged and married all in the time before we even got engaged so that was REALLY hard.  I didn’t understand what was “wrong” and the reality was neither of us were ready for it, emotionally or financially.  I am now so glad we waited a little bit longer so we will be getting married at a more stable time in our lives.  We’re even having a long engagement, which I wanted.  But that certainly didn’t stop me from complaining…:)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@Shirinjoon:I also wanted to point out that some people rush their weddings and they aren’t as ready as you might be when you get engaged because you’ve been through more and been together longer.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I feel you. It’s so easy to feel jealous of people who have/get something that you have been wanting so badly. You don’t need to feel bad about it. It’s natural I’d say.

In terms of if I’d express that kind of petty feeling, I DO! It’s just my nature to say what’s on my mind. I can even tell my best girlfriend that I’m jealous of that girl and this girl getting engaged blah. I know it’s ridiculous but it’s not like you’re attacking people. I don’t want to stress over “Oh I’m not supposed to say this It’s not cool” kind of logic. Maybe I’m lucky, but my bf don’t care when I tell him how I’m feeling in situations like that. He is well aware of my feelings.

Having said that, I think it depends on how your guy generally handle your emotions and talking about the subject, and you should probably act accordingly.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@SweetRose2011: I completely agree on this. It was difficult watching friends meet their spouse, get engaged, and married before us. I remember being really upset about that for us. We ended up getting married 2 years after they did with a much longer dating period. They’ve now been pregnant and had a kid whose almost a year old. When we first got married, I wasn’t gung ho let’s get pregnant, now I am as we’re approaching 2 years married. Just remember to focus on your relationship and your needs. Every relationship is different and looks alot different from the inside as well. My best friend married before me and it surprised me. I thought for sure I would be married before her. From what I know of her relationship, hers is a lot from mine and she’s got her own set of challenges to deal with. Just because they married before us, doesn’t mean that their relationship isn’t any easier or more magical than ours.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

awwwww I totally know how you feel…SO’s friend met his Girlfriend a year after we met and already moved in together and he thinks he is going to propose. I’m like oh wtf, am I supposed to be happy?! In the words of Jan Brady, marsha marsha marsha ! :-/.. all I managed to say to SO was..’wow’….lol its natural! (we all hope)

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