- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Let me set the scene. Let’s say that a friend of yours tells you something and it is apparently in confidence. She makes you promise not to tell anyone. You make the promise with no problem.
But when you promised, did you mentally think “Ok I won’t tell anyone except for SO”? I’m just curious.
Last night my roommate and I were talking about her first trip to the gyno, which is happening today. She’s going because she either has a yeast infection or an STD, she’s not sure. She’s also getting a pap smear done so she was asking me what that felt like. (TMI, sorry)
In the midst of this conversation, my BF calls. Every night after he gets off work, he calls me. This is a regular thing so my roommate knows to expect this. Anyway, I asked my roommate if we could continue our conversation later because I really wanted to talk to BF. She said sure and left my room.
I picked up the phone and said hi. Then we started talking about our day. Which then segued into me starting to tell him about my roommate’s first trip to the gyno and how I was giving her advice on it.
Well apparently…my voice is loud and it carries.
Roommate burst into my room and goes “DON’T TELL HIM!”
I was completely taken aback. Then I said (while trying not to laugh, I know I’m a terrible person) “Oh…sorry. Okay, I won’t tell him.”
Then my roommate sighs with annoyance and said “Yeah right, you’re gonna tell him” then she closed my door and left.
And…okay, yes I told my BF what was going on. But I’m sorry, I tell my BF everything! You should know that if you tell me something in confidence…I’m also gonna tell my BF. But I don’t think it’s a big deal because he’s not gonna tell anyone, I mean. Who would he tell, really.
I asked my BF what he would do if the situation was reversed. If his best friend told him something in confidence and told him not to tell anyone, would he still tell me? And he answered with “Naturally.”
When I was younger and never had been in a great relationship, I couldn’t understand why my mother had to tell my dad everything, even though I begged her not to. I also couldn’t understand why my aunt had to tell my uncle everything, even though I would say to her “Please don’t tell anyone.”
I couldn’t understand it…then I met my BF. And now I completely understand it. Lol it’s just natural to want to tell your SO everything. At least for me, it is.
What about you ladies? If a friend tells you something in confidence, do you still tell your SO?