(Closed) Do YOU think a 1ct diamond is "modest"? Just for fun!

posted 9 years ago in Rings
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  • Post # 137
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    @Rachel631:  In the US there are multiple ways to define “classes” (and definitions can be a little vague) and not everyone ranks them the same way. There is both the type you mentioned you’re from (that was my background too, exactly like yours in belief system (moderation is best, don’t be garish, class is understated), and I am not from the UK) and then there are people who view that more income is always better so more conspicuous consumption indicates higher social status.

    It’s all a big mish-mash. I guess that’s a good thing. No matter what you do, someone is nodding in approval, lol!

    Post # 138
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I specifically asked for a smaller diamond, mine’s about .6 and I can’t imagine it being any larger. 

     

    In general if it was a toss up between quality and size I prefer quality. 

    Post # 139
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Rachel631:  You are not weirdos. You’re just different from Americans, as we are different from other cultures. My Fiance is from Jamaica. His dad is in his 80s and raised Fiance with many of the same social maneurisms and social rules of Great Britain. Since Jamaica was under British rule for much of his dad’s life, this is what he is most familiar with.

    So I understand what you’re saying. Thank you for sharing this insight!!

    Post # 140
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    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @little_d:  I think every society is a bit judgemental… they just show it in different ways! For example, in the UK, class trumps colour most of the time. If you are middle class and black/Asian/whatever, you automatically have a social advantage which a white person of a lower class does not. Does this mean we are not a racist society? Nope. We just have different standards of judgement (plus, you could argue that non-whites at the very bottom of the class ladder have a very, very tough time indeed). I would also say that the UK is a real melting pot as well… we are a very cosmopolitan people in many ways. Thinking about it, maybe it’s a bit like this:

    1. Setting: America. Dave and Christine have just shown off Christine’s engagement ring to a friend. The norm for their area, and their professional status, would be about 1.5 carat, which is the sort of thing all their friends and co-workers have. Christine has a 0.3 carat ring.

    Friend says: What a lovely ring!

    Friend (subconsciously) thinks: Wow, Dave and Christine must be really struggling financially if they can only afford such a small ring! Maybe they are not careful with their money, and they have got into lots of debt?

    2. Setting: UK. Dave and Christine have just shown off Christine’s engagement ring to a friend. The norm for their area, and their professional status, would be about 0.4 carat, which is the sort of thing all their friends and co-workers have. Christine has a 1.6 carat ring.

    Friend says: What a lovely ring!

    Friend (subconsciously) thinks: Wow, I never realised that Dave and Christine were such footballer’s wives wannabes. Maybe they are just very insecure people who are trying too hard to impress. Anyway, it hasn’t worked.

    I think all societies judge… they just judge differently and normalise that judgement so that you don’t even know you are doing it!

    Post # 141
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    @Rachel631:  Again, I’m gonna have to say that considering my whole family’s social circle exists outside the UK, your experience is not a completely UK-specific phenom!

    Post # 142
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    we’re not all like that! 🙂    i wouldn’t judge anyone on their class… maybe on their behaviour!  >:-/    but NEVER on their social standing or their upbringing. it’s all a bit old fashioned and closed minded! lol

    @little_d:  

    Post # 143
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    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @joya_aspera:  Well, yes!

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    @RumpleCat:  It is closed minded! Yep. But I think it’s also quite subconscious. I don’t think people realise they do it. It’s not like the bad old days when people were refused entry to places by snobby butlers, but I still think that we give off subtle sugnals to each other. We probably don’t even notice!

    Post # 144
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    One carat is pretty nice from the town I am from…some girls here don’t even have rings. Some never even bothered to get married.

    Post # 145
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @Rachel631:  Woa, this is really interesting!! I’ve spent quite a bit of time in the UK (London mostly) in the past 2 years for conferences and business trips and I never thought twice about wearing my uhhh American-sized? (haha) ering and eternity band. I wonder how often I got judged!

    Not to thread jack or get too much off topic but there is definitely a certain amount of  “old money” vs “new money” in the US too, but it sounds like our thresholds or expectations for what’s considered “gaudy” or “showy” are different than they are in the UK.

    ETA: Sorry OP, I didn’t answer your question!! I guess 1ct is about average to a bit smaller than average, most of my friends aren’t engaged yet but the ones that are have 1.2-2ct center stones, most are in halo settings so i’m not sure what the tcw is. I did know one girl whose “everyday” engagement ring was a 3.5ct RB solitaire because her “real” engagement ring was in a safe somewhere, far too expensive to be worn except on special occasions. She was an outlier.

    Post # 146
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In the D that’s baller size for sure.

    Post # 147
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @littlegraykitten:  I suspect you probably didn’t. I think there’s a sort of understanding that non-Brits live outside of the system!

    Post # 148
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Rachel631:  ahh ok, that makes sense. and i assume everyone knew I was American as soon as I opened my mouth!

    Post # 149
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @littlegraykitten:  Also, I may have been a bit cavalier in overstating the importance of just one thing… I think that there are so many factors which people examine when they do the subconscious weighing each other up thing… it’s not just what you wear…

    Post # 150
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Two things –

    1. girls are getting rings with halos now so a smaller, more flawed diamond looks bigger and

    2. there are so many synthetic and grown diamonds on the market, I think it is more common to be closer to the one ct size.

    I think it does depend on your place in life and social group. My friends who were married when I was in the beginning of my career (like in my mid 20’s) had smaller, simpler rings. Now my friends all have larger, flashier rings (I’m almost 32).

    If my Fiance and I had known each other 10 years ago, I know my ring would be smaller or more flawed but we both have worked hard and are in a good place in our careers so mine is just over a ct and pretty clean. But I also have a step cut, an Asscher, and you can see all the flaws in it so he went with smaller, more perfect rather than larger. 🙂

    See photo –

    Post # 151
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I agree with the OP that 1ct is very big for the UK most people have 0.5ct. Also I think size is judged here where I live) without taking into consideration the other C’s of a diamond.

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