- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Ok, so I will be honest that I didn’t read through all of the responses…however, I felt very strongly about living with the person I was going to marry before marrying them. What better way to see if you are actually compatible with each other living together? This isn’t to say that heading straight for living with your boyfriend is right either, but my now fiancee and I agreed that when he moved in, there was no doubt in either of our minds that a proposal would happen soon after. His parents weren’t all for it, but we won them over with the fact I am also in medical school, he is a 1st year teacher and coach, and if we didn’t live together, we would honestly never see each other. This was all too true during basketball season, when often the only time we got to see each other was crawling into bed at night. It scares me to think what would have happened to our relationship if we didn’t live together because we are both so incredibly busy, we would definitely not be as close as we are now. Plus, what is the point in having two places, paying 2 rents, 2 utilities, etc., when I would have wanted to stay with him every night anyways. Time wise and financially, it just made sense for us. In my opinion, if you are sleeping with your boyfriend or fiancee (literally and figuratively), then trying to “not live together” until your married because of religious reasons is kind of defeating the purpose. Even if you are only staying the night a few times a week, if you are not living together because you think its wrong, then you are already in the wrong. The only people’s views you are caring about then is society, and I honestly don’t care what other people think about me all that much, I try and make my decisions on what is best for me.
Anyways, what I really wanted to post was this article I found a few days ago that made me grin from ear to ear. The research done that led everyone to believe that “couples who live together before marriage are far more likely to get divorced” is outdated and not very accurate. So someone decided to do some new research, and they found that actually, couples that lived together before marriage, that had never lived with another significant other, were actually 28% less likely to get a divorce. Honestly, I can’t say I am all that surprised, I kind of have the same view that, you would never agree to buy a car without test driving it first. Not saying that relationships with people are like buying a car, but seriously, I am so glad that our first part of our marriage won’t be spent trying to figure out how to live with each other. As far as the “specialness” part of it, I don’t really see how being forreal married is going to not be special. I guess one thing that will rock is we actually have another roommate at the moment (a classmate of mine) that neither one of us care for, so she’s getting the boot once we are married, because we want it to be just us. That will be awesome, can’t wait to suggest naked Sundays! (Kidding..maybe ;] )
Cohabitating for the win 🙂