- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Living together before marriage is no guarantee that what you experience under the same roof, be it for 6 mnths or 6 yrs, is never going to change. It;s not guarantee that you will always be able to tolerate his flaws, or that he wouldn’t acquire new flaws 10 or 20 yrs down the line (and vise versa). So this method of “trying before buying” isn’t foolproof, not hardly.
Marriage is a vow to love another person NO MATTER WHAT. Sickness, health, rich, poor, we all know the vows. Therefore if you are going to get married for the true reasons (despite religion etc) when you make these vows you are committing to sticking it through the differences, the annoyances and all the “down sides” that come with marriage.
Living together is very risky emotionally, as well as financially, without the commitment of marriage, the combining of assets under the Law, the mindset to become ONE with this person in every regard. Living together makes it a lot easier for one person, or worse – a person and children, to be left abandoned, financially insecure, emotionally shipwrecked when one partner who has not yet made these vows to commit, decides that it is easy to give up when the going gets rough and ignores the cost.
I would definitely say if you are not ready for marriage in the true sense – to commit your life to this human’s wellbeing whether or not you are loved in return – don’t bother with it, or with finding some method of “trying it out” just so that you can have an easy escape.