Post # 1
Do you think finding that one person should be an instantaneous feeling or did he or she grow on you over time? I was talking with one of my guy friends recently and he was saying that he had heard from so many people how they just knew when they met their SO that he or she was it. I haven’t ever encountered this so I wanted to see what you guys thought or experienced. When you met your SO did you know right away that he or she was the person for you or did it take time to know? My bud said that he’s worried that there isn’t really that feeling out there and that if he keeps waiting around for it, he could possibly be missing out on the one right in front of him. I could offer no advice except to go with your gut and your heart. I would love to hear your stories though!
Post # 3
We met twice but its when I invited my Fiance over for tea one night and I ahd blown the breaker in my new appartment and the water wasnt hot and yada yada by the end of that evening I had that feeling and with 2 or 3 weeks we knew we were going to get married. This was when we started college and by Christmas we were picking our colour scheme for the wedding. No over 2 years later its comming soon.
Post # 4
Darling Husband and I weren’t “love at first sight” but we were very attracted to each other. That being said, I think I knew within the first 2 months of dating him that he was the man I was going to marry. I guess that makes me somewhere in between.
Post # 5
It was a “the one” first meeting for me. We’d even finish each others’ sentences. I never had a list, but I vaguely knew what was good for me. And he was it. But I imagine other people could grow to love each other if they’re still growing as individuals themselves.
Post # 6
It was a pretty instantaneous connection once we started talking. I wouldnt say it was a “oh i know Im going to spend my life” with him feeling at all though. It was just a strong attraction. We had met a few months earlier (he was cubemates with a guy I was working with and dropped by to see a lot for work) but I didnt think much of him at that time.
Post # 7
It was actually very awkward because FH knew I was the one for him about 6 months before I knew he was the one for me. Lol. No, we didn’t have that feeling. I think it’s just a personality issue. Some people fall in love more easily.
We heard the same thing about houses, that you just walk into a house for sale and you will know when it’s the right one. Well after several dozen/hundred open houses over 3 years, we never had that feeling. We did pick a nice house and i really like it, but it’s not love.
Post # 8
We dated briefly a year and change before we got together this time. In hindsight…. I think we were brought together then just as a little sample…. and we were brought back together when we were both emotionally ready.
I knew the first date that 2nd time I wanted this guy around…. for a LONG time… My feelings definitely began much quicker than FI’s… but once he let that happen…. we knew we were right for one another.
Funny how things work out the way they ARE meant to be!
Post # 9
I had a strong attraction to him and that kept growing and here we are! I don’t really believe in love at first sight, but I DO believe that there are many many people out there for each person. I feel as if I have the capability to love/marry more than one person if life/circumstances brought me to them…
Post # 10
Fiance and I met at a bar and the first time he came to my town to see me (hour and a half away) I knew he was the one. After he left I sent my best friend a text and told her to find a bridesmaid dress.
Post # 11
I had a feeling that there was something speical about Fiance when I first met him. He was just so easy to talk too. After about a month of dateing I knew he was the one for me. 🙂
Post # 12
Yes, a feeling right away. Maybe you don’t even know what that feeling is right away but its there, the connection is stronger then past relationships. I still look back on the first time my Fiance cuddled me and I remember letting out this long sigh and thinkthis that it felt like home.
Post # 13
We had an attraction to one another while we were friends and there was always a strong connection with us. It wasn’t until we started dating that we realized almost immediately that the connection we felt was real. I can’t quite explain it, but I can say it is completely different than any relationship I’ve ever been in.
Post # 14
I definately felt something when I first met my SO, it prompted me to go talk to him that night and is the reason we got together. I wouldn’t say it was like “I know right now we’re gonna be together forever” it was more like “we could have a connection” and when we talked I could tell we got along really well.
Post # 15
No, but I think you should feel a connection at least.
Post # 16
Yes, I definitely knew right away. My best friend and his best friend were dating – and my best friend had a big bonfire at her house one night. I went to the bonfire, and so did my Fiance. We had never met before.. but somehow we were just instantly connected. He came over to me at the fire and introduced himself and we ended up sitting there talking for about three hours. My best friend actually came over to us and said, “HELLO, there’s a ton of people here you guys… you two are just in your own little world!” I can’t even explain the connection we had that night. I can’t put the experience into words.. it was just wonderful!