(Closed) Do you think going with your significant other to try on rings ….

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
54 posts
Worker bee

We went to a few stores to get an idea of stone sizes, and looked at settings together.

The proposal was far from a surprise but it was still amazing, and I’m happy that I had input on something I’m going to be wearing forever.

Post # 4
3943 posts
Honey bee

We went several times to try on rings and look at different styles. I was even there when he bought the ring. But the proposal was a 10000% surprise to me.

Post # 5
22 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

Darling Husband went and looked at rings together. but I never said I want this ring or that ring the decision was his and the proposal was honestly a complete surprise. I knew he would propose at some point just had no idea when or where. 

Post # 6
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I worked with the jeweler on my setting design. The entire concept of engagements and huge expensive purchases being a surprise kinda baffles me. I would much rather be a full participant in such important decisions.

Post # 7
46 posts

I think both parties should have equal say in what ring is ultimately purchased. Yes, he may be the one funding the purchase, but you are the one who will be wearing it. That said, even if you have a feeling, or know for sure, a proposal is in the works, the moment it actually happens is sure to sweep you off your feet.

Post # 8
111 posts
Blushing bee

My bf told me to go find a ring that I liked so I went with my best friend. We were long distance at the time so it was a good way to enjoy the experience with my bestie while also saving my Fiance time. 

Once I had picked out “the one”, I took my bf to the jewelery store and he had to choose if we would buy the .50 carat or the .75 carat. He choose the .75 carat and the day that he took me back to the store to purchase the ring was very romantic and also a bonding experience for us. He bought the ring on a Friday and proposed on the following sunday. Which I totally wasn’t expecting because I thought he would keep the ring for a few months after I did the long distance move to live with him. 

I don’t believe it ruined any experience for either of us. It was up to him which size we purchased and he decided when and how we got engaged. We are partners so I feel like it was only fair for us to share responsibility for the ring and engagement. 

Post # 9
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We did not look at rings together. I think if we did, then I would probably be sitting around wondering when he would propose. lol. My fiance did a wonderful job with the ring and I was really surprised with the proposal. I am very happy with how everything turned out!

Post # 10
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There was absolutely no surprise in terms fo WHEN the proposal(s) happened – we decided together on a day we would each propose to each other. But the exact manner in which we proposed was a surprise. It was wonderful. I picked out my ring, it was a simple, extremely affordable vintage/pawn shop find.

Post # 11
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am an Encore Bride…

My first marriage (circa 1980) and My Groom-2B and I shopped together, was certainly unusual to do so at that time.

We were fresh out of Uni and both starting our careers, we had a limited budget, but wanted to get Engaged that first summer.  We went looking together.  There was no grand proposal, when the ring came in we went and picked it up together, and he slipped it on my finger.  We then went out to celebrate on the Weekend at a fancy high-end restaurant (very memorable).

In the 30+ years since, more and more couples shop (or at least browse together)

I cannot stress enough how important it is for a woman to TRY ON E-RINGS…

What you think you like, based on a photo, can be a zillion times different once you have it on your hand.

Just like not all clothes we see we think we like / love suits us… the same is true with Jewellery / ERings.  Everyone’s hands are different, and not all rings are going to look great on every hand.  Period.

This time round…

Mr TTR & I shopped together as well (he proposed without a ring).

Took us 6 Weeks to find a ring that we were both happy with… I was concerned about look, he was more concerned with quality specs.  In the end we found something we BOTH love, and we fondly call it OUR Engagement Ring.

It is more than I ever dreamed possible… but then as an Encore Bride who met my man in my late 40s… so is he.

Hope this helps,


Post # 12
137 posts
Blushing bee

I’m a notorious suprise ruiner, and I’d much rather choose my own ring (especially since SO and I have very different tastes), so no. 😛  In fact, I told him on our first date (because he asked!) that I’d want to choose my own ring and would rather be proposed to without one.

Post # 13
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@WeddingPea: No. I picked my ring (diamond and setting) entirely.  Even when I had narrowed it down to 2 stones, Darling Husband wouldn’t choose, he made me!  I knew when it was bought and when it arrived. I was sneaking around wearing it a few hours before the propsal. I was still completely surprised at the proposal (didn’t think he’d do it when or where he did). I had zero inclination that it was coming that day until he was on one knee. 


Post # 14
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We didn’t shop together, as we both felt it was more romantic for him to have it be a complete surprise.  I seem to be the odd one out, and I totally understand why people want to go shopping together.  For me, it would have taken away from the experience of getting engaged.  I’m just very traditional when it comes to my relationship. Fiance also wanted to be able to surprise me and had fun thinking he was being sneaky, but of course I could tell from his behavior that the engagement was coming soon.

Post # 15
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We looked at rings together and I tried on a bunch. I’m picky and he knew nothing about rings/wasn’t confident enough to pick something himself. I was shocked when he proposed.

Post # 16
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we shopped around together and he wanted me to choose what I loved. I still had no idea when he went to buy it and the proposal was still a total surprise.

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