(Closed) Do you think he would think badly of me If I tell him this?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3261 posts
Sugar bee

I’m from the middle east as well. But I was born here. My parents were both born and raised in Lebanon, and have somewhat of the same mentality. You have to respect their culture, but at the same time, you should be able to pick the type of ring you want, and if you want to help, you should be able to. You don’t necessarily need to hide these things from your parents. If you’re getting married, you’re old enough to make your own desicions. Show them the ring and tell them you love it, its the one you want, and your Fiance will be getting it for you.

When it comes to paying for the wedding/bedroom set, let your parents know that you’d like to help your Fiance pay for these things, because he works very hard, and you don’t think its fair to put so much pressure on him. Judging from what you wrote, I get what your parents are saying.. in Eastern culture, its believed that the man should pay for all of these things before the wedding, because it will prove that he’s capable and ready to be able to handle a household. But since your Fiance is not from the middle east, gently tell your parents that you think it would be smart to help pay for some things so that your Fiance is able to save more and you can have a comfortable marriage. If they still disagree with it, I guess you might as well not tell them.

 

 

Post # 4
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

 I agree with mrscheetos on this one!

Post # 6
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Tell him and see what he says. You’ll only know if talk to him about it.

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