- 11 years ago
So my boyfriend and I haven’t been together for very long (a little over 5 months) but you know that saying "why you know, you know"? We that’s us. We know. He’s made it very clear that he’s done looking. He knows how lucky he is and that he is completely satisfied.
Well, we have already had talks about children, where we’d like to live one day, etc. and in all of those conversations, he talks like it’s going to be us. The only thing that we never really talked about was marriage- getting engaged, the wedding, etc. And when I asked why we can talk about such serious stuff as children but he gets weird about the idea of marriage and a wedding, he said that children and stuff is so far away it doesn’t seem real, but marriage is possible and "we’re" not ready for that. I thought it was weird, but accepted it and didn’t say another word about marriage, or us marrying each other.
Well, I was in a wedding 2 weeks ago for a good friend of mine, and he was my date (he had never been to a wedding before). Well the night of the rehearsal, everyone kept saying that we were next, when’s our wedding, you know- typical stuff. Well he got quiet, and I thought that something made him upset. So on the way back to the hotel, I asked. And he said that it’s not that he doesn’t see himself marrying me, because he does, it’s just that he knows that we’re so far from it, he doesn’t want to get excited about it only to have to wait for it to happen (the last time we talked about it, he asked me what age I thought was appropriate for marriage- I told him 25 and up. I’m almost 24, he’s 22).
So after the wedding (at the reception) he was talking about the food, the open bar, etc. in reference to "his wedding" one day. Then, he wanted me to go catch the bouquet. And I told him that he doesn’t want me to do that because, with him never having been to a wedding, he didn’t know what he was getting himself into- because if I caught it, it meant that we were next and he had some work to do ASAP and I knew he wasn’t going to do it for years- I was teasing). And he said "Yeah well you never know. It might happen sooner. You just never know."
The weekend after the wedding, we were walking around the mall, and he started asking me what style ring I like. And we passed a jewelry store, and he asked me to show him instead- and he said "good to know". Then I called my best friend to tell her about it, naturally!, and she started asking me what size ring I wear "just incase" and "if/when" he asks. And she was acting like shewould be so upset if he didn’t consult her about it.
This weekend, we’re going away on a trip to Charleston, SC together (which he had been planning for 2 months). I have no idea what we’re doing the whole time, he wouldn’t tell me because it’s all a surprise. He only told me yesterday what to pack for the trip because he knows that I am good at figuring out surprises, so he didn’t want me finding out what we were doing by what I needed to pack.
I’ve been keeping my mom informed on all of this, and yesterday she asked me what we’re doing on our trip and I told her I didn’t know. And she screamed out "HE"S GOING TO PROPOSE"- she was speculating. And I said, "no he’s not!" She told me she wouldn’t be surprised if I called her to tell her that I am engaged this weekend.
I’m thrown off even more because we both still have a lot of school, serious school, left. I’m going to vet school and he’s going to law school and we’re trying to get into the same school, but it isn’t a sure bet.
So….. please help! What do you think??