(Closed) do you think honeymoon registries are tacky?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: honeymoon registries: tacky?
    YES! so tacky and rude to ask people to give money for a "vacation" : (49 votes)
    44 %
    NO! its simply an alternative to a regular registry. no harm done and completely acceptable : (62 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I had one. 

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee

    I think they are creative, especially if your the type of couple who is already established (i.e. already have kitchen ware and household basics). I mean really, how many picture frames can one person have in his or her home, right?

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think they’re tacky at all.  I also don’t think it’s tacky when brides sent their invites out with separate piece of paper stating where they’re registered at, even though etiquette says it’s rude.  I like knowing where I can shop for the couple (and for things they want) if I’m not invited to the shower.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I have no problem giving money to someone’s honeymoon registry – in fact I’d usually rather do that than buy them linens or something off a traditional registry.  The way I see it, I’d much, much rather spend my own money on a vacation or nice dinner for myself than on physical stuff that sits around the house, so I’d rather give someone else that sort of gift as well.  Especially when every couple I know already lived together for awhile and didn’t need to set up a joint household.

    That said, I am so anti-stuff that I haven’t bought any housewares in five years.  Our plates have chips halfway through, our pillows are all flat and non-fluffy, and our towels are the same towels we stole from our parents when we first went away to college.  So we’ll probably only have a traditional registry to make up for the fact that I refuse to buy myself anything that takes up space.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    For those who have had them, do they really work?! Do people donate to it? or did you still find that you got a lot of gifts!?!

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We did both a regular store registry and honeymoon.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m having one so I hope not!

    For people who think they are, why do you think so?  What’s the difference between buying a gift for someone or giving the same amount to their honeymoon registry?  It’s still a gift with a real purpose…

    *Edit* I also wanted to add that we are paying for our honeymoon ourselves and anything anyone donates to our honeymoon registry will be considered … reimbursement I guess is the way to put it.  We aren’t expecting our family and friends to pay for a honeymoon we can’t afford because we can afford it.

     

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Oh and so far I’ve only had the shower and only items off the registry were bought or cash given.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    I don’t think they are tacky, but I probably would not gift anyone something like that.  I’d rather give a gift of money that can be spent or saved as you like directly rather than to a “fund”.   Personally, I like giving gifts that will last a lifetime like bone china or fine crystal.  I like the idea of an heirloom gift.  A honeymoon fund will last a vacation…and while the memories will last… I would think that the remembrance of an individual gift giver would be forgotten… 

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee

    I dont like them. I think they are tack”ish”, but no as tacky as say a charging an admission fee to your wedding 🙂

    Its outright asking for money because it goes into an account and then the couple is written a check. If the cash went directly to the hotel to pay for a dinner or a night, etc I would feel differently about it.

    I am OK with giving money, but I want to make that choice and I don’t want someone telling me to give them cash.  Typically, people know what is most needed or tradition in a region or a family so if the couple wants or needs cash, they will likely get some. 

    With the different types of registries these days I think couples can almost always find stuff to put on it, even established couples. (lawn tools? deck chairs? lamps? alarm clocks? basketballs? skis? home depot supplies? camping supplies? etc)

    Also, I think when people ask for money they will be mreo likely judge the amount given to them. Oh Mrs. X gave $200, but I know she can afford more”.  I like being able to buy more for less money (sales, coupons) without it devaluing the present if I cant afford enough money

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Missbliss: Some of them, like honeyfund.com that we used, DO go directly to the bride/groom. The site did not take a percentage, it all went to us. We used it as a nest egg for our 6 month trip through Asia, and in addition to sending immediate Thank Yous, we will be sending photo postcards from the countries we visit where we do the activities that people contributed to.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @lefeymw: We live in a small one bedroom in urban Boston. If we registered for the things you suggested, we’d have to sleep outside!

    Also, I would never judge you for how much you gave! We were literally thrilled that people were able to afford to come out for our wedding. We just absolutely do not have any room whatsoever for “stuff”!

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee

    @crayfish:  I certainly get that I have been that position too, but even then I could have replaced old towels, new sterio system, replace the garbage can, your non-stick pan (which I swear I need a new one every year) etc.  But really if that is where you live and you dont have much space, dont the people invited to your wedding know that already and if your registry isnt very large, wouldnt they know that you preferred to have the cash?

    We dont have a lot of space right now either, although probably a bit more than you, and most of what we are registering for are replacement items.  Like a nice motion detector garbage can, replacement bathrugs, throw pillows, sheets, towels etc because this is the stuff that actually does wear out.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    No I dont think theyre tacky at all!

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