Post # 1
Hello lovely bee’s!
This is my first post and I was just looking for some advise/ opinions! I have been stalking these boards everyday for about the last 5 months! A little background: My wonderfully amazing boyfriend and I just recently picked out a setting as he said he will be proposing in the near future 🙂 eeeep! We live together and have been dating for a few years. He is also 31 and I 22 almost 23. (almost 10 year age difference) He has said that the diamond he picked out is about 2 cts. I don’t know why I care but am just a little nervous that people will be very judgmental if they see it. I am still in school (almost finished) and he has a good job. He was able to pay for the diamond/ setting all at once so he didn’t go into debt or finance or anything like that (not that doing that is bad in any way). I am almost nervous that I won’t want people to see it unless we are together (I know, silly) but it’s true. I am also debating on wearing it while I am at school or even flipping it around for the same reason/ snarky remarks. I feel like people will think I am too young to be engaged/ ring will be too big 🙁
I guess I was just wondering if anyone else has felt this way and what did you do? Is it silly that I am feeling this way? I am just so happy and overjoyed that he wants to spend HIS life with me. It is a wonderful feeling 🙂 and I don’t want my insecurities to get in the way of my happiness.
Thank you for all your help!!!
Also, I am a HUGE fan of other bee’s engagement rings so if your wouldn’t mind posting your beauts I would be a happy happy girl 🙂
Post # 3
@Jav4491: You know, I’m the same way about large stones. I tried on my mothers 1.5 ct oval diamond and I felt super self conscious. At the end of the day though, I think the size won’t really matter or what anyone thinks. They’re just jealous if they judge 😉
Be proud to have a man who can provide for you in such a way and no one will be able to say anything to you about it!
Post # 4
@Jav4491: There are going to be people who judge you, some will be jealous, some just enjoy being on their high horses. Don’t focus on them and rock your engagement ring! 😀
Post # 5
im in the same boat. same age and my fiance is also 10 yrs older with a great job. people arent as mean as you think and ahat matters is you and him at the end of the day. show that beotch off
Post # 7
It’s sad, but people are going to judge you based on a lot of things during your life. I would just be proud/happy with your ring….since you are young and still in school I’m sure you will get lots of looks etc having a larger size stone….and probably some remarks too….if you do wear it just be prepared for that.
All that matters is that your engaged…whatever some one has to say about it etc..doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. If you don’t feel comfortable wearing it to school, don’t. If I had a 2 carat rock I would wear it everywhere!!! 🙂
Congrats on your upcoming engagement!
Post # 8
People judge everything. As long as you aren’t one of these people with a big stone that goes around asking, “is my ring too small?” then it shouldn’t be too bad.
Post # 9
There will always be people who judge – it’s too big, it’s too small, it’s too shiny, it’s too dull, it’s too something. Don’t worry about people judging. If you love the ring, rock it!
Post # 10
My friend got his wife a 2ct and I only judge him because he’s always mentiioned the price. Tacky. She’d be embarrassed if she knew.
It’s a beautiful ring!
Post # 11
Chances are, You’ll never know what people say under their breath so who cares? enjoy your ring!
Post # 12
@Jav4491: also, depending on the cut, people might not recognize it as a 2ct. Asschers, radiants and cushions all “face-up small” (im sure there are others, too.) My 1.65 cushion has the same diameter as a 1.25 radiant, and a lot of people think its about 1ct. If he wants to get you a big, glamorous stone but you don’t want to be “flashy,” maybe look at fancy cuts!
Post # 13
I have a 2ct and I love it. When I first got it, some of my friends said, “woah look at the size of that rock!” I don’t even think 2ct is that big – especially coming from NY where a lot of girls where 3ct+ e-rings. If you like the size and it’s what your Fiance wants to get you, then rock it, you’re going to love it when you get it and MOST people won’t say anything to you about it and if they do, they can shove it. I’m so proud to say my Fiance spent 2.5 years saving up to get me that ring bc it just shows that for 2.5 years, he was thinking about marrying me and wanted to get me the ‘best’ ring (in his mind).
Post # 14
people will judge. i had alot of comments about my 1ct because its fairly large for the area i live in! but who care. its none of their business and if you love it then they can stuff it.
Post # 15
too big, too small- no matter what your ring looks like, people will judge. so just smile and say “i happen to love my ring, and my fiance very much.” and ignore the bad comments.
Post # 16
don’t worry about it, you will get used to the larger stone. i am wearing my grandmother’s diamond. the first week, i thought it was too huge to go out in public with, then i got used to it. when i take the train by myself, i turn my ring inside my finger. my ring is insured so if anything happens, i am not worried.