Post # 77
@arsing89: What does sex being only for the confines of marriage have to do with sex education? I guess I’m not understanding the argument such people make. Even if one waits until marriage, sex education is still important.
Anyway, I think it’s incredibly irresponsible to not talk to one’s kids about sex.
And the conservative religious values regarding sex need to simply disappear…
Post # 78
I was caught reading a sex book when I was very young, but instead of the talk, my parents just provided me with more books and even CDs about the “9 month miracle”. If you don’t talk to them about it, you gotta at least inform them about it.
I knew about sex, but I didn’t really know the mechanics of it, and was told umpteen times to save it for marriage. Bahaha I didn’t.
Post # 79
My husband’s family didn’t discuss sex. At all. Ever. He figured out what it was from a dictionary definition. I had to explain that periods and babies were linked.
I don’t want that for my kids. I do believe that sex needs to be discussed AT THE LEVEL THE CHILD IS AT – it’s definately not appropriate to discuss your own sex life with your children – but kids need to know about their bodies, and about reproduction.
It’s not a bad thing. It’s just life.
That being said, I will be a mother who will hope that her kids hold out for marriage. But I want them to have the tools to make good decisions whenever it does happen for them.
Post # 80
@Zemerald: This mom said if she had raised her kids with the value of abstaining until they were married and then had the sex talk with them, she thought it was a double standard and this would allow her children to think it was ok to have sex whenever. I don’t understand this argument either, but everyone has their own opinion.
Post # 81
ABSOLUTELY! They are going to hear about it from me – not from some kids on the bus saying how cool it is – or from the TV and how everything is about sex. I’m going to tell my kid the truth. Hiding it from them pretending it doesn’t exist just means they’ll find out about it from someone else. And who knows what kind of lesson they’ll learn.
Post # 82
My parents sat me down and had “the talk” with me at 10 years old. Which was fine-they meant well- except that I had heard about sex from the kids at school when I was 5.
So when I had my daughter I knew i would tell her about sex from birth- like Dr. Phil said in the show. So we have always talked about body parts-using the correct names, and about puberty and then before she went to kindergarten I told her the basics of sex.
Yes, a lot of people may think it was early- but now that my daughter is on the cusp of puberty (9 1/2) she is coming to me with great questions- about periods and getting armpit hair. I am sooooo excited and so hopeful that I have created an environment that she feels she can come to me and discuss whatever she wants to.
Post # 83
Absolutely. I will be having multiple “sex talks” with my children at different ages.
Post # 84
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If you don’t talk to them about sex, how the hell are they supposed to learn about how to protect themselves? (From accidental pregnancy, from Save-The-Date Cards, from doing it way too young and getting damaged emotionally, etc.)
Parents’ role is to prepare and guide their children through life. Ignoring sex because it’s “wrong” or some shit is so, so irresponsible!
Post # 85
I don’t have any children, but I do think it’s important to discuss sex with your children. Even if your religious beliefs frown upon sex outside of marriage there still should be some education there.
It’s getting a little ridiculous to hear 16 year old girls telling their friends as they are buying a pregnancy test that they thought they only had to take birth control before they had sex. Obviously education is important.
Post # 86
This is why I already say vagina to my daughter at 15 months old.
Post # 87
I grew up in a Christian home, and was taught very little about sex. My mom always excused us from the sex-ed classes at school, and at home we had very short, brief talks that didn’t seem to explain much. I know my parents wanted to protect us from making bad decisions, but I wish they didn’t do that. I didn’t fully understand how sex worked until I was a junior in high school when I took a child development class. Even then, there were so many things I was oblivious too. I ended up learning more from searching online for answers, and that’s not how one needs to learn about sex!
I never felt comfortable asking my parents questions, I really wish they had explained things to me more. My Fiance is my first, so I never got into to much trouble – I just felt a little dumb and clueless when our physical relationship started. Embarrasing 😛
Education is important. Everyone will have sex at some point, whether they are younger or older when it happens… it’s good to be informed. I fully plan on being more open with my future children than my parents were with me.
Post # 88
I grew up thinking I was going to wait until marriage to have sex. Well, I didn’t. But at least I had the knowledge necessary to not get a disease or an unwanted pregnancy. Actually, the fear of those is part of why I waited until I was almost 20 years old to do it.
Post # 89
IF I were the parents, I would like to have a sex talk with my child.It is not quite an embarrassed topic if you talk from the science angel. Tell the kid this is the natural reaction when you grow to a certain age. Don’t be afraid or shy(ashame) about it. But need to notice not to over reactive, like too much sex or reject sex. Also, he/she need to know the result if have unhealthy sex, like HIV or venerism.