(Closed) Do you think it matters what the “traditional” wording is?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think it really matters, in my opinion.  It’s really about what you and your Fiance want!  What about this wording for both:

Together with 

Mr and Mrs “MissHelen”

and

Mrs “Mr.Helen”

“Your full name”

&

“His full name”

request the pleasure of your company….

 

Post # 4
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253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Maybe you can you do something like:

 

Mr. and Mrs. Helen’sParents

request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter

Miss Helen

to

Helen’s Fiance

son of Mrs. Helen’sFI’sMom

 

I think that’s the “traditional” way of listing the groom’s parents if they’re not hosting.  For me, the “Mr. and Mrs. Man’s Name” wording was a dealbreaker (didn’t use it when addressing our invitations, either) so we went with a less-traditional wording that still acknowledged our families.  But I don’t know if anyone noticed…if so, they certainly didn’t say anything to us.

Post # 6
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2472 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do tend to notice wordings on invitations.  When I see “Mr and Mrs request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter….”, I assume the bride’s parents are the hosts and they have paid for the wedding.  Unfortunately, I don’t have any additional wording advice – I think the suggestions above are good – I just wanted to put my two cents in that I notice the way invitations are worded!

Post # 7
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4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Well, the language of your invite has a meaning and will convey a message. The traditional wording comes from the tradition where a bride’s parents host the wedding. But you can use whatever wording you feel comfortable with in this case–if you want her name there, put it there! But your guests (at least those who think about these things) will then assume that your parents hosted.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@BlueShoes2 and @HL nailed the two wordings I was going to suggest.  

The third option is:

Together with their families

Helen Lastname and Fiance Lastname

request the pleasure of your company . . .

 

Post # 9
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with HL. We are doing “Mr and Mrs Bride’sdad Lastname request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter MyFirst MyMiddle to FIFirst Fiance Middle son of Mr and Mrs Groom’sdad Lastname”

Post # 10
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343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was wondering that too. My parents are paying for the wedding but I really like when it says “together with their families…” I don’t want it to be so formal.

Post # 12
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4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Of course traditions are breakable, and I’m not sure that there are really all that many practical implications regarding who people think is hosting. If you don’t care about the assumptions, then you have freedom to do whatever you like. 🙂

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I think those of us who are wedding obsessed notice and not so much anyone else. My cousin got married recently and I was totally analyzing everything and discussing with my mom (who is clueless), and I realized just how much more I noticed and cared than she did.

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