(Closed) Do you think it's appropriate to call to check in?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: calling or texting to check in...
    I think should always be done. If my SO has any possible way to contact me, s/he should to check in : (28 votes)
    24 %
    I think isn't necessary, in all circumstances. I'm not that worried about it : (14 votes)
    12 %
    Is frivolous and too clingy. I don't need a call/text when they arrive or land, etc. : (0 votes)
    I always prefer my SO to check in with me (even just once!) : (34 votes)
    29 %
    I dont' mind if my SO doesn't check in : (7 votes)
    6 %
    I don't care if my SO checks in or not, I'll see them when they get home! : (6 votes)
    5 %
    I would be very upset if my SO was gone overnight/for the weekend and didn't check in : (14 votes)
    12 %
    I would be irritated if they didn't check in while they were gone, but it's not a huge deal : (13 votes)
    11 %
    I wouldn't really notice if my SO didn't check in while they were gone : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    My Fiance and I both travel a good amount for work, so we established early on that we both expect frequent check-ins. At the very least, when our planes take off/land. 

    Fiance works in film/tv, so recently he was filming something in the middle of the desert in Arizona, and had no service at all. But he told me in advance and called me from the hotel at night.

    We both just think it’s common courtesy, and helps alleviate any worries.

    Post # 4
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I think it’s appropriate and necessary if for the sole reason to ensure that they made their destination safely.  FH always asks me to shoot him a text when I go somewhere.  I usually don’t really ask him to do if for me (or maybe I just don’t remember specifically asking) but he will call or text me when he gets to his destination.

    Post # 5
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Meh, neither of us have expectations about the other one checking in. I don’t think it’s overboard to want someone to text you when their plane lands it’s just not a big deal to us.

    Post # 6
    42 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I tend to worry a lot, and Darling Husband has learned that over the years. He’s generally not so great at responding to calls/texts, but we’ve gotten to the point where he calls me every time he’s about to take off on a flight, or texts me when he has reached his destination. 

    Post # 7
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    I guess I should have also added that when we are local, we don’t really do it. We sometimes text a quick “headed home” or something, but if we are both in Los Angeles, we don’t really check in as much.

    Post # 8
    544 posts
    Busy bee

    My SO is a worrier ..so he likes to know when I leave and when I arrive. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you expecting your Darling Husband to check in. It takes 3 seconds to send a quick text or make a quick phone call.

    Post # 9
    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s considerate and smart. If your SO consistently checks in with you when s/he reaches their destination, then it clues you in a lot sooner if something were to ever go wrong. Maybe that seems overly cautious, but it could be really helpful if that kind of situation were to ever come up.

    My parents made me do this anytime I took road trips in high school or college, so it’s normal and makes a lot of sense to me.

    Post # 10
    377 posts
    Helper bee

    We will normally say whether to expect a call or a message or not beforehand. I think its not a big deal to send a quick, im here im safe message but definitely something you should agree on before you go!

    Post # 11
    4982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    We text to check in a lot. He worries about me, so I check in with him more often than he does with me. He tells me when he gets to work. I tell him when I’m going out and who I’ll be with. It takes 2 seconds. If either of us was going very far, we’d definitely be sure to do it. 

    Post # 12
    2433 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We don’t have any sort of agreement or expectation. We tend to text or call at least once if we’re not together, and typically much more frequently on regular days (emails and messages throughout the day). It’s never really “checking in” – more just to talk.

    I guess if he was traveling for work and didn’t at least text when he arrived, I might be concerned.

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