(Closed) Do you think it's disrespectful to call your in-laws by their first names?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Is it disrespectful to call your in-laws by their first names?

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  • Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My DH and I have always called our respective MIL’s by their first names. 

    Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I call them by their first names. Depending on who I am conversing with will depend on what I refer to them as.

    DH and SIL: Your mum/your dad

    My family: first names

    Friends/others: DH’S mum/dad.

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee

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    Bichon Frise:  I dont think so. I dont call my Mother-In-Law “mom” I call her by her first name. That is what I called her for the 7 years prior. 

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Since his parents are divorced I wasn’t sure. I asked my hubby’s opinion then asked his parents what they would prefer.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    Bichon Frise:  I call my soon to be in laws (TOMORROW!) by their first names. I have a mom and dad and it would be weird to call them that. I do call my fiance’s grandmother by the same name my fiance does.

    Post # 21
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    Newbee

    My fiances party get upset with me for calling them by their first names, only because they want me to call them mom and dad. I have to keep explaining to them that I was raised to only call my own parents mom and dad and I’m not comfortable calling them by anything but their given name.

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    Bichon Frise:  I call mine by their first names.  I would get the oddest looks if I called them “Mr. and Mrs. XXXXX). And, no way am I calling them Mom and Dad. They aren’t my mom or dad (my mom passed away so I may be more sensitive about this than others – no way in hell I am ever calling someone “mom”).

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It’s respectful to call people what they want to be called–whatever that is. 

    Post # 24
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    Honey Beekeeper

    My in-laws preferred Mom and Dad and that’s what I call them. H calls my parents the same. There’s no confusion and I know that they are my in-laws, not my parents. Like anything new or unusual, you get used to it very quickly. It meant something to them, and that’s all I cared about. 

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I call them by their first names. It would be weird to me to call them Mom or Dad, as that’s what I call my  parents. I also would be confused calling them Mrs and Mr G, as I’m taking FI’s last name – Fiance and I will ALSO be Mr and Mrs G!

     

    I think it’s perfectly acceptable and polite to call them whatever they ask you to call them, or whatever everyone feels comfortable with. 

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

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    Bichon Frise:  I wouldn’t know what else to call mine???

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    My in-laws are Taiwanese and even after so much time I still don’t know how to call them xD Tradition would suggest calling them “Ba” (Dad) and “Ma” (Mom) just like my Fiance calls them, but, well we ain’t in Taiwan so… and I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that!! So I call his mom by her first name, and I never utter his Dad’s name cause it’s impossibly hard to pronounce and I barely see him cause he’s always working… So I would feel awkward if I called him by his first name cause it’s too casual, but wouldn’t call him “Mr. S” cause it’s too formal!! When I’m talking about him to my FI’s mom, I say “your husband” or “FI’s Dad”…never his name!! 

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

    Not at all. I’ve always called mine Mom and Dad, but I don’t think they’d be offended if I called them by their first names. 

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I didn’t know other people called them something other than their first name… If i’m talking to someone else or introducing them I will say my mother/father-in-law, but besides that it’s first name.

    Post # 30
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Whatever one decides to call the in laws, don’t call them nothing. That’s rude and disrespectful. 

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