(Closed) Do you think it's disrespectful to call your in-laws by their first names?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Is it disrespectful to call your in-laws by their first names?
    Yes : (15 votes)
    5 %
    No : (258 votes)
    89 %
    Other (explain below) : (17 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 76
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Bichon Frise:  I think it might also depend on when you met your SO, too.  We met when we were 17 (we’re 27 now), so I have always called them Mr. firstname and Mrs. Firstname. 

    Post # 77
    5 posts
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I could never imagine calling my Future IL’s by anything other than their first names, it would be far too strange and formal for them.  And I’m pretty sure if my Fiance called my dad MR. He would laugh or just stare him down stone faced… one or the other- no in between…  FI is from a well off, fairly formal family, while I am not. It just depends on the family.

    Post # 78
    481 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    When I first met Father-In-Law and Mother-In-Law (when my husband and I were dating in high school), I called them Mr and Mrs Lastname. They both said I could call them by their first names at that time.

    We’ve been married three months now, and I’ve been considering asking if I could call them Mom and Dad. 

    Post # 79
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I call FI’s dad Future Dad in private and his first name in public. 

    I also only call FI’s mom by her first name if I must talk to her at all. 

    I don’t see myself calling her any variation of mom unless she makes some massive changes in how she treats people. 

    I also met them after 30, so we’re all adults here.

    Post # 80
    2119 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Bichon Frise:  my inlaws wouldnt stand for being called by their last names. they would prob be insulted if i called them mr and mrs. i think they would love it if i called them mom and dad but in my mothers culture that would be disrespectfull to my own mother. 

    Post # 81
    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I’m not sure what you think the respectful way would be, but I call my ILs by their first names. I never called them Mr. + Mrs., and I think that would be weird now for me to. I don’t feel comfortable calling anyone mom + dad other than my parents.

    Post # 82
    213 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Rockfield Manor - Bel Air, MD

    I call my FI’s parents by their first names, but only because they asked me to. I would never dream of calling them by their first names if they hadn’t expressed that it was okay to do so.

    Post # 83
    302 posts
    Helper bee

    I call my own parents by thier first names. I personally don’t think its disrespectful, as they have an identity outside of being someones mother or father.

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