It hasn’t been my experience in my circle. Everyone who’s gotten engaged in recent years has either been somewhat low-key with it or had a plan that went sideways one way or another but still forged ahead with it.
It’s great if a guy wants to surprise his partner with something special, but I definitely would side-eye it if a guy was pushing off an engagement saying that he needs more time to plan, etc. The vast majority of proposee’s would prefer to just be asked the damn question, whether it’s in Paris or in their living room.
In the last few years, two of my brothers, my best friend, a coworker, another friend and my partner and I have all gotten engaged.
The one brother didn’t have a formal proposal – they went ring shopping together, picked out their sets, and then started wearing the rings when they came in.
The other brother asked his now-wife while on a little weekend trip together.
My best friend asked his fiance on their 5th dating anniversary. He meant to ask while they were out for dinner, but the ‘right moment’ never came and he didn’t want it to feel forced or awkward. He ended up giving her the ring and asking her while she was in the bathroom wiping off her make up after they got home lol
The co-worker was asked by her now-husband on their way back from a ski trip with friends and it went totally off-plan. He had intended to ask her at some point during the weekend and had a bottle of champagne set aside all weekend for after he did it, but they never ended up having a good moment alone the whole time and he was acting all weird on the drive home, stopping “to pee” in every little town along the way… turns out he was trying to find plastic wine glasses at every gas station they stopped at so that he could ask her before they got home and pop the bubbly lol She finally was like “dude, wtf is up with you?” and he told her so she told him to just do it so he gave her the ring and they degrassi’d the champagne haha
My other friend who just got engaged asked his fiance while on a hike the other weekend.
My fiance asked me while we were at a friend’s cottage for the weekend and got on with it despite me completely ruining everything haha He had the ring in his pocket and finally found a moment alone with the two of us standing on the dock the one morning just chatting. I realised I needed to poop and told him so and he was like “ok” and I could tell he was a bit upset by me walking away from the conversation for some reason and asked why. He said he had been wanting to talk about some stuff so I said ok I can wait, but he obviously didn’t want me t o be focused on holding in a poo while he was proposing lol so he told me to go ahead and come back out. So I did. Imagine how fucking ridiculous I felt when it turned out to be a proposal… lol