Post # 1
As a recently engaged woman (yay!) in an intercultural relationship, one of the first questions we always get is “Which religion’s ceremony are you going to have at your wedding?”, and it’s gotten me thinking… is a wedding ceremony a religious event, a promise to God or is it a social event, and a promise between spouses to commit to each other in front of their loved ones?
What do you bees think?
Post # 2
For us the ceremony was both religious and social. We wanted to share it with our friends and family but we also wanted to incorporate our religious beliefs into the ceremony.
Post # 3
Your answers are going to say mostly social since there’s probably more non-religious people than religious on here 🙂 for me I guess I’d say the ceremony is mainly a religious event (although plenty of our guests were not religious) but the reception is definitely all social!
Post # 4
My ceremony had 0 religion in it. So I’m going with social event.
Post # 5
nonablu : I’m ok with that 🙂 Just curious to see what oher bees think!
Post # 6
jellybellynelly : can I ask what format your ceremony followed? Since neither me nor Fiance are particularly religious, I keep going back and forth between having a completely religion free or religion agnostic wedding or creating one that kind of combines elements from both of our religions… but it’s a tough one and I feel like a religion agnostic wedding might offend the least amount of people, lol (because you know there is always someone who will criticize your wedding, no matter what!)
Post # 7
My husband is a LeVeyan Satanist and I’m not religious in any form. So, social.
I found an officiant who was agreeable to not doing a religious ceremony (she was actually a rabbi who specializes in LGBT weddings) and she sent me a template of a ceremony and I just took out anything religious and added in what we wanted. Super easy!
Post # 8
“a promise between spouses to commit to each other in front of their loved ones”
This is what it was for us, although we did incorporate a few religious components mostly to honor our parents and our traditions.
Post # 9
I’m not religious, so I didn’t consier it a religious event. Darling Husband wanted a pastor to marry us as he is Christian, but it wasn’t a traditional church ceremony. One size does not fit all.
Post # 10
Neither of us are religious at all so we had a Humanist ceremony 🙂 so I guess you could say the wedding was for only social reasons not religious
Post # 11
For us, it was deeply religious. We would have had the same ceremony even without family there. It’s a promise between Darling Husband and I, but also between us and God.
I would say the reception was the “social” part of the wedding for us, not the ceremony at all.
Post # 12
All social. Neither of us are religious at all. We wrote our own ceremony from start to finish and our own vows. It was amazing.
Post # 13
We’re both atheists so our ceremony will be entirely non-religious. Though I wouldn’t say that the ceremony is social per se. Because the ceremony part is a promise that my fiance and I will be making to eachother about our futures. And that portion would be the same regardless of who was watching. So it’s not religious, but it’s not really social, it’s personal. And the reception will be entirely social!
Post # 14
Ours was an enlopement ceremony so it wasn’t really a social event. We incorporated some religious themes from both of our backgrounds. I guess you would say it was more a spiritual event rather than religious.
Post # 15
I’m not religious nor is my family. It’s purely social. There will be no mention of “god” or anything like that. I think it just depends on the bride and groom. Since we are Agnostic it wouldn’t make sense for us to incorporate religion.