Do you think siblings HAVE to be in the wedding party?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Both my brother will be on my wedding party, but none of them is BFF. And there is no offence.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Instead of being in the bridal party, we are having my brother and FI’s sister (who are both the same age) be reception “hosts” (wecoming everyone, telling a few jokes, making announcements, emceeing). That way, they can wear whatever they want and help out with family stuff rather than be involved with our friends.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

To us, we saw siblings having a bigger role in weddings than being in the bridal party. We are having an Indian Hindu wedding, in which traditionally there really is no “real” role or concept of a bridal party but siblings are given specific things to do in the ceremony. Also, our siblings have been/will be more involved in planning than any friends would ever be, so it made sense to separate them from the bridal party. Maybe we will try to coordinate colors though?

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Absolutely you are not obligated to have your bridal party members be for the sake of they are family. I don’t have any siblings or close cousins. My Fiance has 4 siblings and none of them our in our party.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

No you don’t HAVE to put your sibling in the wedding but I get where you mom is coming from. It seems odd to exclude him from the wedding party, especially if ya’ll don’t have a bad relationship and FI’s sibling is in the wedding party. I also think it would be unfortunate to have FI’s sibling in all these formal pictures with the bridal party and your sibling not in any. 

If you’re absolutly opposed to having him as a groomsman can he walk your mom down the aisle? Then he has more of a prominent place in the ceremony. To me an usher is a pretty unimportant role, especially when you have your FI’s two cousins already doing it.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t feel that family has to be included in the wedding party, My Fiance is including my little brother as a groomsmen because they are close and he truly cares for my little brother. If you do not have a close relationship I do not think you need to feel obligated to include anyone.

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