(Closed) Do you think that as you get older you love you're partner less

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper

truthah:  That’s what I got from the OP too: Carl and Ellie did it till the very end.

 

Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Psa: real love is not a romance novel, romantic comedy, or penthouse forum letter.

thanks, 

reality 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The ___? I can’t handle these LOL.

Love is not what they write in books, put in movies and TV shows, etc. It is not a PHYSICAL thing. Can you show love in a physical manner? Yes. But it’s more than that. Not going to waste my breath on this post though because again, I call BS.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

jennymack89:  Here’s whatcha do.  Break up with your Fiance on the condition that he take the million dollars and say that he broke up with you.  Split it with him.  Live happily ever after and find a guy you’re more compatible with and less neurotic about.  

You’re welcome.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Fi and I have been togther 19 years.  We will finally be getting married at our 20th anniversary.

Love changes over time, but that does not mean it diminshes or is gone.  And sex can be an expression of love, but not love iteslf.  Beleive me, when you are close to 40, work 40+ hours a week, try to make time to work out, clean house, and then work on art projects, sleep is often more important than sex.  The lack of desire is not an issue.  It’s a lack of energy, and the knowledge that having sex means no time to go to the gym because you have so little time in the evenings.  And you will be zonked out by 10PM even if you fight going to bed till midnight.  

I think Fiance and I love each other more than we did when we first started dating, simply through virtue of actually knowing each other more and more.  

Ths does not mean I don’t relish days when he goes out and I have the house to myself, or that he wants me hanging on him all the time when we’re both at home.  

 

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee

jennymack89:  You’re in for a world of hurt if you expect your relationship to stay static for the entirety of your life. Shit ebbs and flows and evolves like anything else.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

jennymack89:  There’s a lot going on in your post.  Firstly, I think to be ready for marriage, you have to be aquainted with the idea that love does not mean sex.  Yes, sex is a very important part of a relationship, but if you have kids, or if one of you is in an accident, you have to travel for work, or just both of you become very frantic in life,you will more than likeyl go through a dry spell.  You need to be able to communicate and respect each other well that it does only remain a dry spell.  

More important than ensuring you ‘bang’ everyday, is whether you are compatible, including morally, spiritually etc.  If you fight a lot and it’s hard work, it will only get worse with time.  Marriage rarely fixes anything! 

Honestly, from your post it sounds like you are nowhere near being ready for marriage.  I think you should try some couples counselling to see how well you both really work together before jumping into marriage.

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I am stunned he fits in 1000 kisses a day with sex everyday, and 4-6x on Saturdays. When do you guys get to shower or brush your teeth…or work?

You are the oddest bee. Your relationship (sorry, your realtionship) sounds somewhat dysfunctional from the start. I agree with the bee who said it sounds like you talked yourself into being with him…and still are doing that. Or you like to troll.

I love my husband in a deeper way all the time. Our bond has only grown. We don’t need to have sex everyday to feel connected, to be affectionate, to love, and to respect each other deeply. 

 

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee

jennymack89:  No. I think a good number of couples aren’t that great from the start and after 10, 20, 30 years the cracks grow and start to show. I’ve seen couples together 5 years who show zero affection and bicker like crazy and elderly couples who were super sweet and romantic with each other. I’m guessing they were probably super sweet and romantic with each other when they’d only been together for 5 years too. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Kikibear:  Thanks for the recap, babe! This made my night.

 

ETA: Oh and yes, to answer OP’s question. The second my Fiance starts balding imma stop having sex with him 15.4 times per weekday and 63.8 times on weekends and head for the door. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  Grid.
Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I think you’re afraid to admit to yourself that you have doubts about this relationship. I could be wrong..

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

He must kiss you 1000 times a day? Thanks for the lols

ETA: Oh, I just realised it’s you of the sore vagina and million dollar daddy. Not this shit show again…

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  Innerdonught.
Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I love him so much more every single day, I feel that maybe he doesnt love as much, but I know mine just grows and grows for him. 

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