(Closed) Do you think that my engagement ring is too small???

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Your ring looks IDENTICAL to mine! I love it, and on my tiny fingers I (and other people) actually think it looks quite big.

Post # 48
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@mrsdavistobe2012: My diamond is just a little bit bigger than yours, .3something. But my finger is bigger, about an 8, so I feel like mine can look a little bit small on my long, “pudgy” fingers. πŸ˜‰ I have the same feeling– I don’t want to be materialistic, but sometimes I can’t help comparing my smaller stone to the rocks on some girls’ rings. One tip might be to look into a cathedral setting– my diamond is set in a soliaire cathedral setting, which tapers to become smaller as it goes higher to the top, and that helps to make the diamond look bigger by comparison. It’s like the setting is saying: “Ta-da!” Another option is going with Moissanite or another type of stone– that way, you can go bigger if you want to, and it’s much less expensive.

My only other advice would be that whatever you do, try to keep it in perspective. Don’t give in to the whole “huge real diamond = huge real love” propaganda that the jewelers have brain-washed us with. A girl can have an enormous, perfect rock on her finger and not be happy or have a good relationship; all it means is that someone either shelled out a bunch of money or is contributing to the credit card companies’ profits… Whatever you do, do it for yourself and for what you like, not for how others might perceive your ring. Good luck! πŸ˜‰

Post # 49
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Awww I love your ring! It’s BEAUTIFUL! What is not to love about it. I like small diamonds that’s my preference I’m not a big jewellery wearer. When it comes to precious jewellery I like to keep it understated and elegant and timeless. Just because something is understated doesn’t mean it’s too small πŸ™‚ Your ring looks very elegant and timeless and it alone speaks volumes. Sometimes I find bigger diamonds and more elaborate rings tend to say “I’m keeping up with the Jones’s” rings like yours and mine ( I have a half carat total weight) simply mean we have nothing to prove and our fiance’s didn’t give into peer preasure in order to be acceptible in people’s eyes. The only people who have told me my ring is Gorgeous, beautiful, stunning are the ones who are humble and not materialistic and have class. The ones that have snubbed my ring and said very little about it, and asked where the other half was (my fiance’s sister) are the ones with no class and who are beating themselves silly in competition with the other person (my fiance’s family). I know it feels like you’re the last one picked in Gym class I do know that, I felt that the night we announced our engagement at the Christmas Party and I got such unenthused remarks about my ring. But I also had to look at who was commenting like that. The ones that unless I have a full carat ring that cost over 5k it was not worth looking at. After a good long reasoning on the matter, I came to the conclusion that those people don’t matter. They could lose all their money tomorrow and then what? Where are they then? Fools with egg on their face. So in the broad spectrum of things….just keep in mind the ones who can see real beauty, and everlasting love, and commitment…those ones are the ones who count. 

If you want to add more pizzaz to your ring, try two bands one above and one below, or buy a ring wrap πŸ™‚ I think though that too much will take away the elegance of your beautiful ring. A beautiful nice diamond band will look lovely and there are plenty of places you can get those πŸ™‚  Bluenile, Brilliant Earth, Myjewellerybox.com, even your local Zales or People’s store πŸ™‚

Good luck sweetie and Congratulations!!!!

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It’s beautiful! Mine is pretty much the same size (0.35) and I think it’s gorgeous πŸ˜€ I love love my ring and I think it looks classy and elegant, as does yours πŸ˜€

I got a simple 2mm band with 7 diamonds scattered around. Here’s how it looks:

The band on its own:

I really hope you find something you like and I hope you feel better about your ring. It’s so beautiful you should feel proud to wear it!

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Who cares girl? I kind of went through the same. My ring is pretty small compared to other I’ve seen. But you know what? I don’t care!  Its about me and my Fiance and the promise we have made to each other. If anything, I’d rather have a small diamond, its simple and elegant. Than a huge ring/diamond. So rock it!!!

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love your ring- it’s beautiful, I love the simple elegance of it. Personally I think a wedding band with paved diamonds would look awesome with it- You do not need to let the diamonds go all the way around- they could just be in front, I am making my band with 12 0.01 diamonds- diamonds of this size is really not expensive and it will give the set that extra bling πŸ™‚

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I love your ring and it IS beautiful. Honestly while I love sparkle and bling, it seems silly sometimes how much people get into it and somehow decide that the size matters more than the engagement itself. You found yourself a wonderful man, AND he gave you a classic and stunning ring! Just like several have said before me, no one should go totally broke for a piece of jewelry, especially when there are things like a down payment on a house, a wedding, a car, etc. to think about.

If you ever decide you want something bigger you could upgrade during a special anniversary like your 5 or 10 year anniversary.

Just be excited when you show people. Your enthusiasm will naturally rub off onto other people, and if it doesn’t, then they don’t matter Smile

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

mine is smaller , .57 I think and I have a size 7 finger. I bought the most beautiful band (pave diamonds like PP have been saying) from Overstock. I posted a pic too! Your ring is gorgeous! Seriously, I know because all my friends have at least a carat, so I get where you are coming from.

Post # 57
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just remember also that you won’t catch your hand on as many things.  I have no clue how those girls with big diamonds do it.  And I always feel that a bigger diamond = a bigger chance of being mugged.  I have a .33 carat diamond set in a half bezel with three small side stones, but it would be fine alone, too.  I’m pairing it with a small eternity band for my wedding ring.  I’ve often thought that my e-ring alone looks a lot like a wedding band, so I’m not sure if it will be too much when all is said and done.  Plus, bigger diamond does not equal better quality.  Your diamond may be a much better cut and clarity than someone who is flashing their bigger diamond.  You probably also made less environmental impact.  I think big rings are gaudy, even more so when they get paired with the wedding ring.  Sometimes, an e-ring that was very stunning alone becomes gaudy when paired with the e-ring.  It just becomes too much. 

 

And like a PP said above.  It really isn’t the ring that matters at all.  It is the engagement.  And then it is the marriage that matters, not the ring.  The ring is only a symbol, and it symbolizes your fiance’s heart, not his wallet.  I would say that to your mother if you ever feel the need to.  I think it’s absolutely horrendous to tell someone not to bother proposing unless he presents a 1ct diamond ring!  I just feel like that is tacky and shallow, and it certainly does not speak of love.  Hope I don’t offend.  Just my opinion.  When you show people, just present it and say, “Isn’t it gorgeous?  FI picked out the perfect ring to symbolize our love.”  And then tell them why.  I would be surprised if people don’t start agreeing.  A lot of people are influenced by the opinions of those around them.  If they see that you think it’s absolutely gorgeous and perfect, many of them will follow suit.  It’s just that this country has really been driven towards materialism.  Sometimes we just have to be reminded of what really matters. 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it looks lovely on your finger.  Getting comments like “WOW LOOK AT THAT BIG ROCK” can actually be awkard too, so just keep the ring if you love it.  You can use the money toward the wedding or anything else you please πŸ™‚  

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t always look at people’s rings but recently I saw a girl with the same sized diamond princess cut on a plain band like yours and I thought it looked really chic! If you want to snaz it up a bit definitely go for one of the bands that has diamonds all the way around (eternity is it?)

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It’s gorgeous and looks great on your finger πŸ™‚

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It really is gorgeous! 

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