(Closed) Do you think the media romanticizes relationships to unrealistic levels?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

YES.. because i have yet to hear or meet about someone like edward cullen. lol

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

In a way, yes, and in a way, no. 

I think that what each person finds romantic and how they express love is totally different. I would be horrified if R had proposed in a big, public spectacle, and our private lakefront proposal was the most romantic thing in the world to me. What’s more, it was romantic to me that he took the time to say what he did, etc. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is that our romance sometimes looks different than the movies, but I never feel like we don’t have enough just because we like spending Friday nights at home a lot, etc. 

Maybe to someone who waited a really long time for their relationship and watched movies & TV shows longing for that kind of romance it’d be a let down? It never really was for me, though. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You know, it’s funny… sometimes I think, “I wish my Fiance were a little bit more, I don’t know, romantic. ::sigh::” And then I remember past relationships when guys did romantic things for me, and I was really turned off by it. In fact, those guys were actually kind of creepy. Like, a little-too-into-me-creepy. Or, “I like to watch you when you’re sleeping” creepy. Or, “I really love you now but when we break up I will stand at your window and yell YOU ARE A F&&#(&( SL*T at your bedroom window until someone drags me away.” Is this just my experience??? (probably. LOL!)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My boyfriend is romantic and I am very fortunate.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

For me, my guy is like the best bits of the romantic movies without being creepy or over the top about it — but that’s not to say it’s always perfect! Sometimes he’s totally romantic, and sometimes he’s <i>so</i> not that I can’t help laughing. I wouldn’t swap our relationship for the world.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Yes.

I also think the media trashes relationships to unrealistic levels – especially marriages.

It’s weird how both can be true but I really think they are. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So this is a serious topic and all, and I agree with what has been said already in both directions — the media propagates unrealistic expectations and is also overbearing when they trash it.

BUT! I just had to share re: romantic to the point of creepy —
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZwM3GvaTRM&feature=player_embedded

I’d rather be Buffy than Bella!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think it does – theres a reason boys tend to dread Valentines Day! There is so much pressure on them to buy us flowers, take us out to fancy dinners and make a fuss. My boy is not your typical romantic. He never buys flowers or random gifts, and he never things to plan a fancy dinner. But he shows he loves me through his appreciation of the food I cook him, by giving me a hug when I have had a bad day, making me feel beautiful and making sure he puts time in with my friends and family.

Sure, there are times when I get frustrated and I want him to take the lead and plan a fun night out and spoil me, but he isnt that kind of guy! Instead, hes a sweet, fabulous man who sometimes makes me mad but 99.9% of the time he makes me blissfully happy in my every day life and that is so much more important than a bunch of flowers every now and then!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that the media like to portray some types of unrealistic relatinships… Not all of us have the buy you flowers every week and tell you 24/7 how much he worships the ground you walk on.

All men are different and show their love in different ways. I think its sick how the media dolls not only relationships but valentines day, anniversaries, marriages and so on to an extent that we feel we need to have this type of person in our lives.

Our men are who they are and that’s why we fell madly in love with them. I am fortunate enough to have a SO who treats me like a queen and still tells me when I’m wrong… Someone who challenges me and compliments me. Forget the media and focus on your love and why you cherish it so much! No need for flowers and cards and jewelry all the time. What happened to the good old days when a hand written letter would suffice. Life is so precious to get so wrapped up materialistic things!

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think a lot of men in the movies and books are written/scripted by women.  This seems really apparent to me as I get older.  Now, when I see a movie that features men who were clearly written/scripted by men, I sometimes cringe a little and am a little repulsed (for example, the movie, The Hangover) but I watch Darling Husband, and he’s totally amused by it – he relates to it.

So I think we have to be careful not to expect to hear what we want to hear all the time and just accept that men and women are truly programmed differently. 

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