- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
I can see this getting ugly fast…and hopefully shut down. Honestly, if someone likes their ring, that is all that matters. Diamonds are beautiful, but not always affordable or the best option for someone. A lot of it is marketing. In the end, all engagement rings and wedding bands are is a symbol of love and promise. It doesn’t matter what stone they have, or what style they are.
In the game of preferred finger coverage and how to get it, there are no rules. Therefore cheating is impossible.
I have a ring from each of your categories! I don’t think they’re cheating, that’s just crazy!
When I was ring shopping I never put this much thought into my ring. I went into the stores only knowing I wanted diamonds on the band. I tried rings on and fell in love with halo- more diamonds around the big one- even better! I liked the split shank look which seemed to better support all the action going on. And finally the milgrain detail was icing on the cake to give me a vintage feel or so I told myself.
I never once thought I was pulling wool over someone’s eyes. I didn’t want to or need to. My ring is all about my heart’s desire. My center diamond sits pretty high off the halo and many people accurately guess it’s 1.5 cts. Maybe the halo makes it look bigger, but that certainly was not the point.
Here’s my ring (stock photo).
I own an illusion set e-ring, and I certainly didn’t buy it because of that! Almost every diamond in the store was set that way; and at the time I just thought it was a gorgeous way of framing the stone.
Since then I’ve actually learned that these are somewhat vintage-y, so I love it even more! But I wanted a small diamond, mine’s only 0.25 carats! I don’t really think that having one of those styles means you’re trying to ‘cheat’, just that you like the style!
Here’s mine if anyone’s interested – doesn’t seem ‘cheaty’ at all to me:
@mariebuttons: I think none are a cheat. But if you have a non-diamond and claim it is, then you lose some respect in my world. If you have a non-diamond that happens to look similar to a diamond, whatever that non-diamond is, own it.
I love sapphires and other gemstones, there is no way they are cheating– they are classic.
Really, the only solution is to post “cheater cheater pumpkin eater” in all of the ring threads to shame everyone into having a proper ring. Whatever that is.
I wouldn’t use the word “cheat,” (cheat on what?) but I do think that the first four types you listed (cluster, halo, illusion setting, simulant) are often used in an illusory way (some moreso than others), and when they’re done like that, I don’t prefer them. I don’t like things that aren’t straightforward.
I don’t think colored gems fit with the others, though. And there are examples of some of the others that aren’t deceptive in any way (snowflake shaped cluster, diamond halo around a blue sapphire, etc.)
I think it depends on the definition of “cheat.” Clearly if a ring is given as a physical sign of an engagement, it can’t possibly be cheating. Trying to pass something off for something it’s not, yeah, I guess that could be considered cheating. I think it can also be considered sad because everybody should own the ring they have, there is not such thing as right and wrong when it comes to an e-ring. It’s a sign of love, whatever sign you choose.
I don’t consider any of those to be “cheating” or “dishonest.” Whatever makes you happy and gives you the look you want! I love vintage-inspired halos and illusion settings, and it has nothing to do with tricking anyone into thinking it’s one massive diamond- I just love the intricate details.
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