(Closed) Do you think they like me?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not everyone has the same level of commitment to family or soon-to-be family. How do they treat their distant relatives?

I think I would be dissapointed as well, but its not necessarily on its surface a reason to think they dont like you.

How about reaching out more obviously, such as a phone call. Call them to talk. They may never respond in the way you want, but they may respond better.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Some people are just “out of sight, out of mind” in their thinking, even about people.  Since you haven’t ever been part of their daily lives, they might just go about their business and not think about it.  I have a friend that is like this.  She and her friend were close and saw each other at least 4 times a week.  Then her friend moved 6 hours away and my friend just lost touch with her.  I thought it was strange, but my friend just can’t juggle LD friendships and her daily life.  She still loves to hang out with her friend when she’s in town, but as soon as she leaves, my friend just gets reabsorbed with her daily life.

This may be what’s going on in your situation. It probably isn’t personal, even if it might hurt your feelings.  If they are still friendly and welcoming when you are around, I’m sure they like you.  If you get to see them more regularly and establish stronger relationships with them, things will probably change.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

@PGsHotBride:  I agree! I have to admit, I’m totally one of those types of people who just doesn’t do very well at keeping in touch long-distance.

I tend to have a few close friends (sister, SO, one particular female friend), and everyone else in my life I”m just not very good at keeping in touch with. I do best when I see people regularly, but I’m honestly just not very social with people other than my absolute closest friends/family. I love the other folks in my life, and I’m happy when they call or contact me or I get to see them in person, but it’s just not in my nature to be the first one to call or reach out to someone outside of my closest circle. Plus, I really don’t like spending much time on facebook or the phone, so that’s another reason why I don’t tend to be the one to call my long-distance friends. Please don’t be insecure about their lack of contact – I’m sure it’s just their own issues/personality, and nothing to do with how much they like and approve of you!

Post # 7
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@whydoesithurt:  I should admit that I’m not the best at this, either. But I’m a lot better than my friend.  For her, once you leave the city limits, you may as well not exist 🙂

Post # 8
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114 posts
Blushing bee

Oh my dear girl.  I am in the same position you are but on the other end, as a Future Mother-In-Law.  I figured that all I can do is keep trying.  They may not know how to show friendship and affection like you do.  Give it time and it will work out just fine.  That is my own plan.  ((hugs))

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