(Closed) Do you think they notice?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m 100% sure they notice. And I think it adds to the pressure. As does watching wedding TV shows with them around.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree, they absolutley notice. And I’m pretty sure they even notice when you get really quiet during the commercials and don’t say a word. (as I often do)

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh they notice. Fiance would always smile and laugh or make a comment about it. The pressure didn’t phase him (even though there were lots of times when I wished that it did)!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: You know full well those comments aren’t innocent. Wink

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Anxiouspeanut:Oh they definitely get them thinking!! That’s why, as much as I HATED all of those commercials and reminders that I wasn’t engaged yet, I was glad that they put the pending engagement back on his mind and I didn’t have to 😉

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Running Elley: my SO is like yours…it doesn’t phase him or it actually makes him annoyed pushes him away. i have learned that before so a lot of times i have to stifle a comment or just keep my mouth shut about anything wedding. it’s frustrating!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: I’d be careful about bringing it up too much, especially if he’s already planning.

Fiance got pretty upset with me when I wouldn’t let it go after he’d let me know we were on the page. It frustrated him that I didn’t trust him, and made him not really want to propose to me since all I could do was talk about it/hint about it (even if I only dropped a hint once every few days, to him it seemed like ALL the time).

He also told me that if I was thinking about it all the time the proposal would never be a surprise like he wanted it to be.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve never gawked at a jewelry store, and I don’t watch wedding shows. Ah well. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

He totally knows. We have picked out a ring. Sometimes I say, “I was in the mall today and I visited my ring. I’m probably the only person who thinks it’s my ring!” He said, “Oh, I think there might be another person who knows…”!

So, we both know about the ring. Financial times are weird, since I just had surgery last week and won’t return to work until approximately April 7. We just had a discussion about going on a financial diet so we can pay down debt.

We had wedding/reception talk yesterday and he was clear that he wasn’t saying he would be doing any of the things he mentioned, it was just a concept. He got in big trouble with me last year for saying things that sounded like I AM ABOUT TO PROPOSE and then he didn’t do it.

We have just resumed, er, pillow time after a 4 months hiatus. So the ring isn’t at the top of our shopping list. But I wish it was!

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