Do you think this is an appropriate mother of the groom dress?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Seriously don’t worry about it, she is the one who will look weird. And I definitely agree, usually the age of the model is indicative of the age bracket of the dress… Need i say more… And in the grand scheme of this no one will care what she is wearing.

Post # 32
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

armywifetobe :  I actually don’t think it is that bad!

Post # 33
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Helper bee

Ugh, that is not appropriate. Even for a 20 year-old. Way too sheer and short for a formal event. Some people have no class and no etiquette.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

I think it’s a lovely, modern, stylish dress. It’s definitely not typical for the role, but… I think many typical MOG/MOB dresses are frumpy.

Think of it this way — it could be A LOT worse 🙂

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I do agree that it is not a traditional MOG/MOB dress, and that you might not think it is age appropriate.

However, it’s not like she’s showing up in a super tight/revealing dress, or something too casual, or white.  I don’t think you can really say much just because you don’t like the style.

Post # 36
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Busy bee

armywifetobe :  has she tried it on yet? She may just not be aware that it’s so short/sheer? To be honest I didn’t notice until I had a second look!

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

armywifetobe :  Exactly what you just said “shes an adult and I cant control her”. If she looks trashy or weird, thats on HER. It has no reflection on you.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper

I think that dress looks gorgeous. Way to go MOG, she must have great legs to choose that style, let her do her and enjoy your wedding 🙂

 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I hope she has the shape for it, for her own sake, but I guess it’s okay, otherwise. I think the best thing to do is let it go & if her butt is hanging out, politely let her know. Just a note that dresses from express that have this long sheer overlay on top of the tight skirt have always tended to wiggle up your thighs as you move, sit, dance in them, in my experience. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee

 

The only real poblem I have with it is that the hi-lo aspect which looks really dated.

Post # 41
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Personally, I don’t like it but who cares? If that’s what she wants to wear it’s a reflection on her, not you. FWIW, my mom wore a satin lavender dress that looked like she was going to the prom. She’s all about “not looking old” and ever MOB dress I sent her she didn’t like because she thinks she’s younger and in better shape than she is. Meanwhile my Mother-In-Law and stepmom both looked beautiful. I can assure you no one thought I picked out my mom’s dress. My stepmom is not girly at all, and never dresses up or wears heels. Her inital dress was WAY too casual (think cotton floral summer dress) to wear to our evening wedding alongside my dad in a tux. I told her that if that’s what she was comfortable in to wear it, but that I worried on the day of she wouldn’t feel dressy enough. My biggest fear wasn’t that others would think she looked bad – but that she would be self concious about being under dressed. In the end she went to a boutique and had help picking out a beautiful dress.

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

I’m not a fan, but I don’t think it’s horrible. My only concern would be that the sheer part is going to look totally sheer and not covering at all in photos. 

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee

I do not think its going to look anything like what it does in the picture in real life.  Let her know that you are having a hard time picturing it along with the wedding colors/wedding party and Ask her to try it on and send you a pic.  Im sure, she will change her mind as soon as she trys it on. 

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I don’t really see an issue with this. I get the feeling that aside from the slip/liner being shorter than the sheer overlay, you don’t see the shorter front hem as being formal appropriate. But I guarantee she could walk into any formalwear store and get an evening gown with that same cut.

Whether or not it’s age appropriate is subjective. I would be so bored as MOG/MOB if my kids told me the only thing I could wear would be a floor length, crepe satin column gown (probably with short or mid-sleeves or a bolero). The ‘traditional’ MOB/MOG dress. Even at 50 or older I don’t think I’d ever want to wear that–and there are some who totally would and will rock it. She deserves to wear what she’s comfortable in as long as it’s not inappropriate (and I don’t think this is inappropriate, you just don’t care for it).

I feel like so often the brides–and not just here, I mean in general–wear what they want whether or not it’s “appropriate” for their age, because it’s their day. They wear what they want. I agree! They should absolutely wear what they like and what makes them feel great!

But then it’s like when the guests or the moms or the BMs (if they get to pick their own dresses) choose something, all of a sudden they have to justify why it’s age appropriate or “body appropriate” (really gals? really? we’re dictating what bodies are allowed to wear a style!? we gotta help each other on this one, for real). 

I know I went off on a tangent a little there, sorry; basically what I’m getting at–for all weddings not just this one–is that I think if it makes her feel good and she’s not wearing a flaming tutu or a dress made of cat hair or simply planning to show up in her underwear, then she’s fine. The color is beautiful, and really any outfit is made by the person wearing it, not by what it is. I’m sure with some nice shoes, and some pretty jewelry and maybe a wrap, it will look completely different.

 

 

Post # 45
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Helper bee

Honestly, I like it. I don’t frankly, like the color, but I like the dress itself and see nothing wrong with it. 50 doesn’t mean they can’t wear pretty things. I have a co-worker and a neighbor who are both in their 50’s and they have ROCKIN bodies and would look fabulous in that. If it makes you feel better, it’s not a head-turning dress, and to me is rather plain, so no matter what, all eyes will still be on you 😉

But that’s just my opinion.

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