(Closed) Do you think this is rude?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it ever okay for someone to ask what size diamond you have?
    No : (53 votes)
    39 %
    Yes : (33 votes)
    24 %
    It depends. See below. : (49 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    Bee
    12097 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

    So rude!  She’s obviously feeling competitive about it.  So immature.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Yeah. I don’t think it’s EVER okay!

    Post # 5
    Member
    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I think that was pretty rude of her. Don’t let her crappy comments make you feel put off about your ring!

    Post # 6
    Member
    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Not OK at all, in my opinion, unless you have that kind of relationship with one another.  But even then, proceed with caution, as it can be a sensitive topic . . . 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    After I got my ring my aunt asked if my fiance had a lot of money.  I felt really embarassed.  It’s about what you love not how much or how big.  Her lucky fiance!

    Post # 8
    Member
    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think the way she did it was especially rude.  My Brother-In-Law asked me one day and I was like, why so you can buy a bigger one for your gf?  You better not buddy, lol!

    Post # 10
    Member
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    For me…it would be rude in all cases…but I would tolerate it depending on who asked. My little sister b/c we talk about everything…but that’s about it.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1901 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If you are super close to the person and they are asking with good intentions, then yes. But obviously her intentions were not so innocent. Pretty rude.

    Post # 12
    Member
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted on it depends because if you had a friend who was genuinely trying to gauge what size diamond looks good on her finger, or what a diamond the size of yours costs or asks any other pertinent (but not competitive) question, then to me, that seems like it would be okay.  But this girl just seems very competitive. Don’t let her demean your gorgeous ring!!! 

    Post # 13
    Member
    1385 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Some people are all about numbers and price tags, if you love your ring that’s all that matters :o)

    Post # 14
    Member
    1189 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think there’s a tactful way to ask and the intent matters.  I asked a friend before I got my ring, while my Fiance and I were starting to look at rings, because I thought the size looked perfect on her hand.  I wasn’t trying to compare anything, just researching.  I think your friend’s response shows she’s not only researching, she’s trying to one up you, and that part is rude.  I’m sorry she did that.  Your ring sounds just GORGEOUS btw, you should post a pic if you haven’t already somewhere else on here 🙂

    Post # 15
    Member
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Totally rude!  I don’t think it is necessarily rude to ask about diamond size but it has to be done tactfully and her response was not tactful!

    Post # 16
    Member
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Eh… it depends on who asks you. Several people have asked… or hinted until I answered about mine. My mom, my brother’s Fiance, and a few of my close friends. I didn’t take it as anything but genuine curiousity. I’d be curious! And it wasn’t at all snarky on any of their parts. 

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