(Closed) Do you think we still need to get bridesmaids & groomsmens gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Bee
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Welcome to the bee!!

I don’t think it’s necessary. But I do think it would be sweet of you to write a really nice hand-written card to the bridesmaids – for me a card goes a really long way and is often more special than a gift. I dunno if your Fiance will write cards to the Groomsmen – right now my Fiance is resisting writing cards for his guys, it’s not a “manly” thing to do.

Post # 4
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10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would say no – they aren’t having to fork out any more than they would as a regular guest. They do still deserve a good thank you though and it would be a nice gesture to throw the rehearsal dinner of course. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@Miss Wallaby:  I agree with this…cards add a nice sentiment the day of the wedding.  You are really awesome to buy the entire wedding party’s attire!  :0)

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Where have all the people gone that say “if it’s used in the course of the wedding day, it’s not a gift” ???  Because that’s what camp I’m in – sure they CAN use those outfits after the wedding day — but will they?  You can get them a more simple gift, but I still think they deserve a gift.  They’re sacrificing a day to be with you (yes, like your other wedding guests, but they’re in a position of honor standing up with you).

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

No, I think the outfit/not having to pay any money for the wedding is gift enough! Agree that a simple card is a nice gesture, or if you want to include $5 gift cards to a coffee place the day of.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with PPs – you are being really generous by providing their day-of attire!  A nice handwritten card would be a good gesture. 

If you really wanted to get them something small – maybe like earrings and cufflinks?

Post # 10
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1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that you should give gifts out of a desire to give them a gift, not because of an obligation.  As a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would be appreciative enough of the fact that you’re paying for my dress and would rather not receive a dainty necklace that I’ll never wear or a Coach wristlet that’s not my style.

If you want to give them a gift or a card to thank them for being in your wedding party, go for it, but if you feel that the attire is enough a gift than you can justify it. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would still get them a little something to say thank you for standing up with you on your big day.  It’s awesome that you are paying for the Bridal Party attire, but it’s not really a gift to them since it’s for your wedding.  You don’t have to get them anything extravagent.  Maybe just a nice bottle of wine or their favorite liquor.

Post # 12
Hostess
16018 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think a thoughtful, handwritten thank-you card could suffice here. You’re already being generous to them and making sure that being in your wedding isn’t a financial burden.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would say no! Maybe have them over for a movie and an ice cream party one day or something and get them a card.

Post # 14
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2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think the outfits are more than enough, but as others have already said, a nice handwritten thank-you note can never go wrong. 

Post # 15
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6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think a handwritten thank you is sufficient, but personally I would throw in some chocolate or a small bottle of liquor or a semi-inexpensive bottle of wine or something.  I would try to keep it to like $10-15 a person.  Just a little something. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Just a card would be fine. 

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