Post # 16
I do think the 1st one is special. Everything about the wedding and getting married and that first year of “married life” is still fresh in your mind. We’ll probably just have a nice dinner, eat our top tier, and pop open our “1 Year” guest book bottle (we did bottles of wine for 1, 5, 10, and 20 years for our guest book). However, I wouldn’t get upset if someone planned an event on that day. I’m not insane enough to think that people even remember when our anniversary is, let alone care.
Post # 17
Yeah, I think it will be nice to celebrate a year of marriage. But I find it silly to not celebrate things in other peopel’s lives too. I mean, if we had another wedding, or a birthday party on that day, we would just celebrate the next day.
Post # 18
I don’t think it’s a major deal, although I would have liked to have celebrated (we didn’t, at all). If we had been invited to something, I don’t think it would have bothered me much.
Post # 19
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Nope. It was something special to us, to commemorate 365 days of being married – but I wouldn’t have minded going to someone else’s wedding or a big event on our first anniversary. We’re in a long-distance marriage because of DH’s job, so we didn’t even spend our actual first anniversary together – we had to celebrate it the week before. Being in a long-distance marriage, where you can’t spend most holidays together, casts a totally different light on holidays – would I love to spend Christmas with my hubby? Of COURSE! But since we can’t spend December 25th together, another day of the month will do. So I just can’t really related when other people have a big meltdown about something else falling on their birthday, or anniversary, or whatever – it’s just a day on the calendar. What matters is taking time out of your busy schedule to celebrate something.
Post # 20
I would be disappointed if we didn’t get to spend our anniversaries together. And I feel like our first anniversary is a little more important because every single holiday this year has been less than exciting for me. I’ve either gotten my period or gotten sick or we went somewhere with family so we couldn’t really celebrate it the way we wanted to. I tend to put a big emphasis on firsts though. I don’t think that will make any of our other anniversaries any less important. And depwnding on the event that would happen to be the same day as our anniversary we would probably decline.
Post # 21
Anniversaries are important in the fact we would like to spend them together. If possible we wouldn’t schedule business trips that would interfere with seeing each other at least part of the day. We marked our first anniversary with a vacation. But, if someone invited us to an event on our anniversary and we did not already have plans we would likely go since we will go together. Every day we honor our marriage though so if we had to share the day or be apart for the day the world would not end and neither would be sad.
Post # 22
Mrs. Wallaby: I was in a LDM for the first 1.5 yrs of marriage. My husband took the week off of our first anniversary to spend it with me. We ended up seeing his friends the day before our anniversary which was annoyed me, but they were happy for us and wanted to celebrate too. Do you know how much longer you will have to be LD?
Post # 23
bmo88: It is special to us, but we wouldn’t want anyone scheduling around us bc of it. We would definitely attend another wedding on our anniversary, no brainer. We are okay celebrating early/late and Fiance is a bit of a hopeless romantic so I doubt he would skip it altogether. We never do anything huge anyway so there wouldnt be much to cancel for another event. All we really want to do is be together that day 🙂
Post # 24
A couple who that upset about an event that happens to fall on their first anniversary, to the point that they wouldn’t attend the wedding of a close friend or family member, has some growing up and maturing to do, IMO. Birthdays and anniversaries are meant to be celebrated, but even young children can and do learn to delay their gratification.
Post # 25
Ehh I’m not that crazy about anniversaries. We might go out to a nice dinner or something along those lines, but I wouldn’t be upset or skip someone’s wedding if it happened to fall on the same day.
Post # 26
I’d have a nice dinner maybe or even a trip if we didn’t have anything else to do, but I don’t mind other events going on at the same time. No one cares about your anniversary unless you want to celebrate a big one like 25th, 50th, etc. I don’t think most people even remember other peoples anniversaries…
Post # 27
bmo88: I wanted to make sure to spend my first anniversary alone with my husband, but I don’t care if anyone had events. It’s their choice to have them on that day, and it is my choice to attend. As for anniversaries going forward, I’d probably be more inclined to go to any events scheduled on our anniversary.
Post # 28
bmo88: We’ll probably still celebrate our dating anniversary instead of our wedding. Just because we will have been together almost 5 years by the time we are married. It seems unfair to discount those years as “not counting.”
And we would obviously go to someone else’s wedding on our anniversary. We have the rest of our lives together. There is no reason we couldn’t do something the weekend before or the weekend after if someone got married the same day we did. We don’t “own” that day. There are only about 4 months out of the year here that are good for weddings, so odds are, eventually, someone is going to have a wedding on our anniversary.
My birthday is in August and I’ve been to 3 weddings my birthday weekend in the past. People only get married once (most of the time). Anniversaries and birthdays happen every year. Seems a bit selfish to me to skip a wedding just because it’s on your birthday or anniversary.
Post # 29
We mark anniversaries, but not necessarily in a big way. At the very least we make a point to get a bottle of champagne and spend the night together, even if that is just on the living room couch.
The thing that I think will make the 1st wedding anniversary a big deal is that that is when we will no longer be “newlyweds” in my mind.
Post # 30
i dont think i would be that bothered by it honestly. But then again my fiance dont really do anything too special on our anniversaries anyway. We make a special dinner that that’s about it. I think we’ll probably do something for our 5th 20th 20th wedding anniversary etc… you know the milestones but for our first i really dont think i would be that bothered by it. we’re the only two that remember it anyway. i wouldn’t expect anyone else to remember it so i wouldnt be angry if someone decided to get married on or around our date. Not a big deal to me.