Post # 1
SO and I will be engaged within the next month, but I don’t think my parents are expecting it so we’re trying to figure out how to give them a ‘head’s up’. We’ve been together for over 5 years and we’re financially stable and my family loves him, so it’s not like we’re not ready. But we don’t want to surprise them with it entirely either.
So my question is, do you think your parents expected your engagement? Please feel free to comment if this made a difference or anything. Thanks!
Post # 3
Well my mom has been dropping hints left and right about how happy she would be if we were to get engaged, and his mom has been asking if we’re going to give her grandbabies, so I don’t think they’ll be surprised when he asks!
Post # 4
Haha even thou we were only together 9 months my parents were less surprised than I was, they reckonedthat they could see he was mad about me and it was not surprising at all – just wish THEY HAD given ME a heads up as I totally didn’t expect it hehehe
Post # 5
My parents were totally expecting it. Just like @MissBoPeep, hints coming out the wazoo!! We’ve been together for 6 years so they kinda wanted us to get a move on LOL!
Post # 6
Have Fiance ask your dad’s permission.
My dad was like, “What’s the holdup?!?!” We were together 2 yrs 10 months when Fiance proposed. Dad had been bugging Fiance for a year and my mom was like, “You’re practically married already.”
Post # 7
Definitely not. We were dating for two months. Hahah
Post # 8
My parent’s were expecting us to get engaged, but they thought we’d be doing it about a year after we did. In our defense, we’d been together for almost four years when we got engaged, so we didn’t exactly rush it.
My husband took the time to ask my older brother and then both of my parents for permission, so I think that helped! But to be honest, it did take them a while to get used to it, and I know that dampened their excitement a little bit.
Post # 9
Why doesn’t your SO ask your parents permission? My Fiance asked both my mother and fathers permission before he asked me. He also took him mom and my mom to help him pick out the ring. They really weren’t surprised when he finally asked for their permission. In fact they were extremely happy since he asked them first.
Post # 10
My parents were expecting it but his weren’t. He just called them on the phone after he proposed haha.
Post # 11
We hadn’t been together for very long, so I think it was definitely surprising to them in that regard. They knew we were serious though, so who knows. Interesting question to ask my folks 🙂
Post # 12
We aren’t engaged yet, but just like @MissBoPeep: my parents are dropping major hints, to both me and him. So yea, they are expecting it.
Post # 13
Darling Husband asked my dad for permission, and I had previously flat out told them that it was happening. Yes, they expected it.
Post # 14
My family definitely expected it. They’d been asking for a while when we were going to “make it official”, and I think everyone was relieved when we finally did (my family is a little on the religious side and hates that we’re ‘living in sin’ so getting married alleviates that issue haha).
His family, on the other hand, definitely didn’t. I can understand why – we’ve been engaged for a year, and at the time Fiance was still finishing up college and I think they were still in, “He’s just a baby” mode. In the past 6 months they’ve definitely come around and are now SUPER excited about the wedding and the prospect of grandkids hehe.
Post # 15
Ya my mom defintiely wasnt expecting it. We were together for 4.5 years at that point but I was still in school
Post # 16
My grandparents were totally expecting it… even though it was 10 months after I met my Fiance.