(Closed) Do you tip a vendor if they own their own business?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I believe you are not supposed to tip the proprietor of a place. Therefore, no, you would not tip these people!

Post # 4
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Unless you’re very happy with their work and/or they go out and beyond their contracted responsibility for you.

Post # 5
4485 posts
Honey bee

While most etiquette guides say you should never do so, they also expect you to set aside tips for vendors whom you have not seen their final product/service in action, which is an incredibly bad idea. A vendor can be great during the planning and be a dud on the day of and vice versa. It happens more often than you think. Considering that a tiip is supposed to be a thank you for a job that goes above and beyond the call of duty, why would you tip for bad/mediocre service? If you do, you’re only telling the bad vendor that they did an outstanding job and to please treat future customers the same way. 

My thoughts are that if any vendor does an outstanding job, including the owner of a business, I would absolutely give them a tip. It doesn’t have to be monetary though. It can be a nice gift that you think they would enjoy along with a heartfelt thank you note. Either way, it should not be given until after you see the product/service in action and wait until then to see how much to set aside to give them, even if that means they won’t get it on the wedding day.


Post # 6
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

absolutely…my husband is a caterer and he’s the manager of a 5 man team…he gets tipped all the time – as does his boss – who owns the business. 🙂

Post # 7
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I give tips to everyone based on their services, whether they are a salon owner or not.  Honestly it sucks because business owners usually put their hearts and souls in businesses and to not get a tip just well sucks… However a great thank you letter more than makes up for it if you’ve forgotten. (BTW I am totally speaking from experience).

Post # 8
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I did not tip the hair/makeup artist this past weekend for the wedding I was in because they charged way more than the competition and were the sole owners/employees of the business and did not do a good job at all, given the amount they charged.

Post # 9
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

Mrs. Penguin tweeted this and photographers said not expected but always appreciated.

I opted to give nice bottles of wine instead for our vendors like photogs that own their own businesses.

Post # 11
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Lots of business owners are really hurting right now, and many don’t make a lot of money even when the economy is good (trust me on this; most of my dad’s relatives have owned their own businesses). Tip away.

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