(Closed) Do you trust your SO to pick out the right ring? ~ UPDATE: Ring Blackmail

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sure he knows your tastes and what’s the harm in just telling him what you like? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Birdi:  Agreed.  Me and my Fiance picked my ring out…and the several upgrades on the center stone after that….always together though and happily.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  Dont you think the proposal can still be a surprise even though you picked out your ring? 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I to be completely honest, would not trust my man’s tastes in jewelry for me.  He nails everything else, but on jewelry we have totally different tastes.    So to get around this, we went ring shopping together and chose the ring together.  I knew exactly what I was getting and having a ring I love is awesome. 

 

 

I think traditionally the man gave the woman an engagement piece of jewelery (not necessarily a ring) and it was often specially commisioned or from the family jewelry collection.  I know my Fiance and I were perfectly happy to pick i out together, as it was a win-win situation.  

 

I should note thqt the engagement was still a surprise and took place about 4 months after we picked out and he bought the ring.  I was still bouncing off the walls excited when we got engaged, picking it out together only made the engagement that much better!  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

Fiance picked my antique engagement ring totally on his own (the only input I got was confirming I would like something antique that wasn’t a solitaire). So yes, I trust him to buy me something I love and would wear every day. He does have excellent taste in things, and especially jewelry.

 

That being said, I see no reason why you can’t convey some of the things you like. Send him some links of styles (http://www.brilliantearth.com has some gorgeous antique rings). Tell him you don’t want a solitaire. He can still pick out the ring, but you can steer him to what you like

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

From the jewelry he got me so far I learned he knows what I like and he has excellent taste. When the time comes he has to pick my ring I 100% trust him and would be more than happy to wear what he got me.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you should trust him to pick it out. Fi was adamant that he should know me & love me enough to pick out the perfect ring without any help and I agreed. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I think you should convey what you want, but trust him to the rest. I think to him its important you let him make  his choice and trust him. If you cant let go now and trust how do you expect to do that married? My fiance wanted our ring to be a work together that was our choice, that isnt every couple’s choice however.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i told my dh what i liked and he listened (he asked me first).  mind you he proposed at 3 months.

now, after nearly 4 years together, he knows me well.  i would trust him to get me something i liked without asking.  in fact, one of the ring threads on here had about a dozen or so celebrity ring pics.  i scrolled through and picked the 2 i liked best.  out of curiousity i asked my dh to do the same.  he picked the exact 2 for me without any assistance.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@alaha:  You’re not a douche. 🙂 Both my Fiance and I didn’t trust him so he went shopping with me to try on rings. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@alaha:  Why not send one of your friends with him?  You can tell him/her what you like and they can steer your Boyfriend or Best Friend in the correct direction.

My friend and I did this, and it worked out great!  We were planning to get engaged around the same time so we went ring shopping together.  I got an idea of what she liked and she got an idea of what I liked.  Then when our BFs started to shop, they could (and did) use us as references.  It worked out pretty well.  Our BFs still picked out the ring, but we were able to point them in the right direction and make sure they didn’t get something that wasn’t to our tastes.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@alaha:  You are completely not a douche for being picky. I am as well and I often send SO ideas of rings I would like (not all the same style) and point out what I like in each style that would make me love it. He calls me a dork, and I just reply with “I know.” and he says “….but I still love you”. I am very very very picky when it comes to jewelry and other things as well, but if I’m going to be wearing it for the rest of my life, I’d better be in love with it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No. I didn’t. I don’t feel it’s anyone else’s responsibility to “get” my style. So I told him & that’s why I picked out my ring in person. He then surprised me with the proposal. It was a great compromise. 

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