Do you use Ms or Miss/Mrs?

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Post # 46
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Dr. In situations where I don’t want to use Dr. (like airlines, who might mistakenly think I would be useful in a medical emergency) I use Ms. I kept my name, so Mrs. seems not right.

Post # 47
277 posts
Helper bee

littlebirdbee :  Perhaps it varies from place to place, but I know plenty of women who kept their surnames yet use Mrs. I know very few women who use Ms.

Post # 49
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I use Ms. on anything that is related to my work for the university, Reverend for anything related to my work for the church.  Tracy almost exclusively everywhere except on paper.

Post # 50
8582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

mel76 :  

Ms, always have, single, divorced or married. There is amazing ignorance re Ms, people insisting it means divorced or partnered but not married or is age related or some such ( even on these boards you see people saying they were actually taught the incorrect use of it).

It is, and always has been the direct equivalent of Mr, the two titles signifying an adult of one or other sex without any unecessary reference to marital status. I don’t know, but l also imagine it is useful to transgender people identifying as female? 

It is to me a minor but important statement and l always insist on it.  

Post # 51
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I am 45 and only know much older women who by Mrs. All of my peers are Ms. Using Mrs. seems so odd to me — as if knowing my marital status is the most important thing about me in any situation and must be announced immediately. I can’t imagine using it.

Post # 52
9223 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

dianaj17 :  technically men have different titles by age. but i very rarely see it except on very formal invitation. and it’s been a while.

master, a male under 18.  mister, a male over 18.

one of my favorite stories is the secret garden.  the young boy is refered to as Master Colin, his father as Mister Archibald.


Post # 53
613 posts
Busy bee

beetobe27 :  I’d be interested in knowing (roughly obviously!) where you live, if you don’t mind sharing? (I don’t know anybody who uses Mrs. so I’m interested in knowing where geographically and demographically these things break down)

(I live in a major city on the east coast of the US, and most of the people I know live either in major cities across the country or in college towns)

Post # 54
344 posts
Helper bee

Miss but don’t really mind.

Post # 55
299 posts
Helper bee

personaperson :  I’m curious, too.

I know someone who insists on being called Mrs. When asked by a friend why she hated being called Ms, she said that she was happily married and therefore wanted to be known as Mrs, as if your title has anything to do with a happy marriage!

Post # 56
2069 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

 Miss and now Mrs

Post # 57
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Concord, Ontario

I will be using Mrs.

Post # 58
10997 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Hey!  I could be called “Doctor”, too, I just never think about it.  That whole ordeal is best left in the dust bin of my brain.

I don’t use it because it would feel pretentious and like EmmaMae, I’d worry that people might think I could be useful.

Post # 59
57 posts
Worker bee

I use “Dr.” in a professional setting, and don’t have a preference in social settings. I let people decide whether they want to use Ms./Mrs. MyLastName or Mrs. HisLastName even though I didn’t change my name. How people address me tells me more about that person. 

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